Girl offers to make it up to you for cancelling a date

[RIDER]

So this girl cancelled our last date and I made her feel bad about it, calling her flakey and ignoring her msgs and calls. She then apologises and wants to make it up to me practically insuating she will do whatever it takes.

I am seeing her later tonight, what should I ask from her as redemption? I dont want to take her out and have a good time without this part because then I'll be rewarding her for her flakeyness. This will be our second date and I'd rather not do the dirty just yet, shes long-term material

All ideas are appreciated

 

[Plain & Simple]

She's LTR material? You dont know that yet, its only your 2nd date and it doesnt sound like she is since she already played you.

I say make sure you have sex with her , thats a good way she could make it up to you.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Wow, what a shallow response. The man just said he doesn't wanna do the dirty with her yet and he feels she may be LTR material, so no, sex is not the answer.

You can't say if she played him or not, all he said was she cancelled. There couldve been a number of reasons for that. The fact she is offering to make up for it means you mean more to her than just another AFC, so I would say go for it and just tell her you expect more advanced notice next time or something.

As far as asking her to do something to make up for it, I am not sure what to say to that. Maybe just tell her if she doesn't do it again it will be good? I dont know.

 

[RIDER]

Yeah she's not the kind to sleep around, its a cultural thing

I say shes LTR material because although this is our 2nd date, I've known her for a little while previously and we've just been "acquaintances" up until now. So I know her well enough to realise there may be potential for something good between us

So what you think? a massage.. buy me dinner.. etc

She will pretty much do whatever I tell her to

 

[Luveno]

I'm with the guy who suggested sex.
Somehow I feel that she's the type of girl who goes "man-skipping": getting what she wants from a guy, then going to the next one to get other material things and attention.

It won't last. You and I both know it. Just seduce her and date other women.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Somehow I feel that she's the type of girl who goes "man-skipping": getting what she wants from a guy, then going to the next one to get other material things and attention.

I'd love to hear your basis for this assesment!

I would advise against asking for sex, she will probably lose respect for you if you do, even if she goes along with it. Girls don't like being pressured or coerced into sex, even though thats kind of what seduction is, but its hidden.

It'd just sound wrong if you said "make it up to me by giving me head or pvssy", thats too direct and makes you sound like all you're after is her ass.

If you do pick something make it something fun and different than what any other jerk would ask, like um, a massage could be okay or you can ask her to cook you a meal. As you said you want to keep her and possibly have a LTR with her, and if she is the right girl for you don't screw it up by trying to get into her panties asap.

Look at it this way, you can screw her now once or twice and leave her and TRY to seduce another woman or if you wait a little bit and play your cards right you can get her into a LTR and have sex often for a long time guaranteed, not to mention a fulfilling relationship and the sex will be better if you care about her more which will come with time as your relationship progresses.

 

[RIDER]

Thanks Joe, your advice is appreciated

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

Anytime rider!

 

[Plain & Simple]

you guys dont get it.

This girl is a "Playa playa" lol.

You think that she is this nice girl and LTR girl cause of the image that she purposely portraits to make you think that way, when in fact is the total opposite, what she did is already a sign.

But you go ahead and make the mistake so you can learn the best way possible, wich is thats by experience

 

[Javelin44]

im with luveno. im dating a girl that does this right now and you're describing her pretty well.

 

[MidnightResistance]

*raises hand*

Hey I'm confused here..

You're telling us that this chick is all flakey and not so great and you want her for a LTR?

How can she make up for cancelling the last date? It's already been said.
Women are like a man's food. When a man sees food laid out for him, he eats. It's that simple.

 

[I'm Joe Dirt]

I am still confused as to how you guys can say she is a playa?

He told us she doesnt have the reputation of someone who sleeps around, she couldnt make it to one date, and felt so bad about it after it was brought up she offered to make it up to him.

He never said she was flakey, if you re-read his post he said HE CALLED HER flakey when he brought up her broken date.

On this basis you conclude she is a hor player who just "uses" guys?

What am I missing?

Jumping to Conclusions is a hell of a workout isnt it?

 

[MidnightResistance]

Forget the whole 'she's a playa' crap.

She's willing to make things up to the guy. This means sex. End of story.
The guy can be a man and take the food offered to him on a tray and then do whatever he wants with this chick...
Or he can not take the food offered to him and probably get nowhere in the long term.

 

[Griffith]

Be smooth, take her out for a good time (on you), then as you're ready to close and bang her, and she knows she's about to be banged, don't do it. Hold off.

Then keep yourself busy for a while with other things and watch her crawl back to you.

-Griff

 

[RIDER]

The date..

Well I feel like an idiot now.. you can all say you told me so

I thought I had it going well, good kino, great eye contact and I was making her laugh all night. Then after wasting all that time she puts me in the friend zone anyway, I couldn't help but show my dissapointment after that and kept my distance not saying much

She tried to hug me goodbye as I dropped her off and I kinda half assed hugged her back and looked away, she said "woah that was cold" and I just said "yeah, see ya"

Now 10 mins later she sends me a txt saying she had an awesome time and wants to call me for a "movie night" sometime.

I'm just going to mark this down as a failure and move on.. I got too emotional about it and it kicked me in the ass

 

[Luveno]

Re: The date..

Originally posted by RIDER


Now 10 mins later she sends me a txt saying she had an awesome time and wants to call me for a "movie night" sometime.

I'm just going to mark this down as a failure and move on.. I got too emotional about it and it kicked me in the ass

Now this reminds me of how i thought about girls 3 years ago, before I learned the field rules.

By acting aloof, you've made her have to work to get you.

She texted you for a reason. She wants your approval. "Movie night" is ******** for "I wanna have sex with you but I don't want to come right out and say it because that would make me look like a slut and kill the anticipation".

If you want her, you'r e on the right track. Don't chalk this up as a failure just yet.Just don't go in with long-term expectations. Play it by ear.

 

[RIDER]

Luverno: lol now that advice would get me into trouble, we shared a common interest in the type of movies we watch and like so thats why she brought that up.

Its really wierd with this girl, the only chick I've respected too much to make a serious move and try to fvck

Had a chat with her on msn and said "I have enough friends, I didnt want another one" she got upset and we eventually decided to remain friends. I still feel like an ass.. but I guess thats why I'm on this site. First day back at uni today maybe I'll make up for it by meeting someone worth my time