Girl obviously interested, but still tries to make you her girlfriend (what's happening?)

[Machinegunner]

I would like to know your opinion on this (sorry for my english, not a native speaker).

I've met a girl at work who is very good looking, but also very feminine. Picked up on some of her clues, that she might be interested. We chatted a few times, she started actively creating opportunities for us to meet at work, writing me and so on. I asked her on a date, she declined, telling me, she has a boyfriend. Seemed genuinely sorry, told me "we can go out anyway sometimes", which I ignored, thinking she just basically felt sorry for me. After that, she came to me several times for a chat. I didn't want to be an *******, so I accomodated her. That's when she started telling me her troubles, minor health problems, small disagreements with family members and such. At that point, I thought "Ok, now she's trying to turn me into her therapist" and cut off all contact. The rationale being, that a girl, who is sexually interested in you, won't devaluate herself in you eyes by telling you this stuff.

Since then, her interest is higher than ever before. She is making up work-related excuses for us to meet, writing me, even started leaving work at the same time I do to have a few moments with me.

So I am confused. It's a theoretical problem - why would a girl try turning you into her beta male orbiter, but still show all signs of high sexual interest? This just doesn't seem to make any sense to me.

Let me know what you think.

 

[firstbornunicorn]

You could be the next bf, could be planning to monkey-branch.

Whenever a chick says she has a boyfriend just be really blunt and reply with stuff like: "Break up with him, problem solved"; "Wanna upgrade to a man friend?"; "Can he cook? Then he can make us dinner".
Boyfriend isn't a husband, don't let it stop your moves.