"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Girl: not very open/sociable

itishe

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Hello again,

There's this female at my school who transfered from a Relgious private school to a public school a few years back, and she seems pretty quite. I've tried breaking the ice with her a few times, didn't very go far, seems like she has no interest. I'm not posistive of this since she has a very tight knit group of friends, so I don't plan on giving up soon. Other than making me feel some what awkward when I talk to her, she's pretty decent.

Any tips on what you guys did around those chicks who seem to have brick walls up around them?
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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itishe

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No reply?

I've tried talking to her some more, she seems to be talking a bit more but it feels like she doesn't want to keep the convo going. She'll answer with long replies (not the, "yes", "no" stuff) but she'll never really offer anything to keep the conversation rolling.
 

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Well, try to get to know her. I don't mean like a wuss, but get a connection with her. She's more of a relationship kind of girl, I'm thinking.
So you could call her maybe? Get a number.
 

itishe

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I'd need to get more of a rapport going before I get the digits. I don't think she's ever had a boyfriend (mind you we are still in highschool) before and she'd be turned off by fast pace. I'll just try to keep talking to her when I can and see where I can go from there.

Neg hits not usually work on these kind of girls? She has a sense of humor, but sometimes she doesn't pick up on the sarcasm too much.
 

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I know what you mean. If you want to date her, you'll have to make her fall in love with you, which is easy.
Just talk to her some more.
David D says it's ok to talk alot on the phone, after she warms up to you, and you know she's attracted.
Until then, keep at it. But once you can, really make her feel that connection with you.
A lot of people feel misunderstood, and if you can understand them, and feel the same way, they will really like you.
Like emo girls.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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