Girl not making eye contact

[green69]

I hung out with this girl I know recently, I know her through a friend so I've seen her probably 5-6 times but this was the first time it was actually just the two of us. We watched a movie at my place, and we were laughing and joking - everything going fine. I find an appropriate moment and put my arm around her...a little while later I did some kino on her arm. Now she never pulled away when I had my arm around her, nor did she seem uncomfortable but at the same time she didn't try to get closer, return the kino back etc.

Also I noticed when she talked to me she wasn't looking at me. Almost like she was avoiding eye contact for some reason. She would make a joke at me or something and she would hardly look at me! I mean it's not like she didn't look at me the whole time, but the eye contact was definitely limited. And it's not like she was being cold to me...we had a couple playful conversations and everything seemed to be going smooth. But she also seemed very self-centered, hardly asked me questions back but instead talked about herself almost the whole time :yawn:

Okay so why don't I ditch this chick? Cause I heard through a friend that she thought I was pretty cute, and I heard she is somewhat promiscuous (but her friends b*tched her our for such actions). So I thought why not give it a shot? But judging by some of her lack of interest signals I am kinda confused. And it's not like she was showing all these signals and then I said something and ruined it...it was like right from the first second she seemed somewhat closed off.

I don't wanna date this chick cause she is bad relationship material, but I find her quite attractive and wouldn't mind some easy action. But is it worth it even hanging out with her or am I just wasting my time?

 

[Randallpink83]

I would say move on.... However she is a friend of a friend, and besides her giving you definate "NO" signals you guys still seem to be getting along just fine, so I would say just make a friend out of her... and move on...

girl"friends" are important. just my thoughts.

 

[backbreaker]

dude, you are overanalyzing big time.

It's as simple as this. At least this is what I do. I don't know where I got it from but it works for me.

Keep in mind, if a girl is over my house, at night and we are watchign a movie, I EVERY RIGHT to think we are having sex or at least she has a sexual interest in me. to think otherwise is not to be a man.

somewhere in themovie, when both are you are comfortable, look at her, grab her arm (gently tugging her towards you) and say "come here", pulling her towards you as you lay down on the couch with her laying inf ront of you, with your arms wrapped arond her.

From then on, the girl has no chance whatsoever. It's the equivlant to Mario Rivera..it's automatic

If I have to tell you how to play it from there... we have bigger issues (start nibbling on her neck)

Now, at this point, one of two things are going to happen. Believe it or not, women have these same issues. You don't know how many times my good friend (who is female) will go to a guys house and "watch a movie" and call me at 2 in the morning, waking me up, screaming WHY WON'T HE **** ME!!! WHAT DID I DO WRONG? I tell her, babe if you only undertstood how most men think these days. She says "WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO, I MEAN, DUHH.. IT'S MIDNIGHT, I COME OVER DRESSED UP...I'M HOT... I EVEN THREW HIM HITS LIKE MY BACK IS SORE...WHY CAN'T GUYS BE MORE LIKE YOU (her and I have had sex in the past, as a matter of fact, we now have what is called a 10 oclock rule, meaning if she is over my hosue after 10 o'clock, I am assuming she wants some ****, which is my usual rule of thumb for any woman"


Back to my point. The woman is going to do 1 of two things. She is going to smile, lay down with you, kick off her shoes and in a sigh of relief say "thank god", and you will see all the sexual tension leave the room at that point. Allot of girls even become more frisky at that point becasuse the move ot make the first move is off.

OR

They pull back. Nuff said.

if the later happens, assuming you did not wait unil the end of the movie titanic to do this, you have not wasted 4 hours of your life watching a movie you don't want to watch in the hopes of getting ass that was never obtainable in the first place. I made this mistake the the girl above a couple of years ago. I stayed up to 5 freakin o'clock with this chick because her "bf was out of town" hoping to get some ass and made no move the entire night. I saw her about a year later and she said I made her feel uncomfortable because I was pressing her too hard, but she respected where I was coming from (and when she left her BF, because she knew I had an interest in her that was sexual, guess where she came to?)

this will tell you everything you need to know

to answer the question about the post.... it's only a waste of time if you take away from improving yourself to see her.

 

[green69]

Well I guess I didn't specify, but this was an AFTERNOON movie lol...probably didn't help the process. But I wanted to find a time when my parents were out of the house cause I hate having new girls over when my family is home...

But anyways I'll probably talk to her in a day or two and maybe set something up soon...I guess if she wants to hang out again then who knows, and if not then I have my answer.

 

[backbreaker]

you just answered your own question.

if you can't control the time of the date, than you deal with the hand you were dealt, nothing wrong with that.

 

[socalrunner]

dude, you are overanalyzing big time.

It's as simple as this. At least this is what I do. I don't know where I got it from but it works for me.

Keep in mind, if a girl is over my house, at night and we are watchign a movie, I EVERY RIGHT to think we are having sex or at least she has a sexual interest in me. to think otherwise is not to be a man.

somewhere in themovie, when both are you are comfortable, look at her, grab her arm (gently tugging her towards you) and say "come here", pulling her towards you as you lay down on the couch with her laying inf ront of you, with your arms wrapped arond her.

From then on, the girl has no chance whatsoever. It's the equivlant to Mario Rivera..it's automatic

If I have to tell you how to play it from there... we have bigger issues (start nibbling on her neck)

Now, at this point, one of two things are going to happen. Believe it or not, women have these same issues. You don't know how many times my good friend (who is female) will go to a guys house and "watch a movie" and call me at 2 in the morning, waking me up, screaming WHY WON'T HE **** ME!!! WHAT DID I DO WRONG? I tell her, babe if you only undertstood how most men think these days. She says "WHAT DO I HAVE TO DO, I MEAN, DUHH.. IT'S MIDNIGHT, I COME OVER DRESSED UP...I'M HOT... I EVEN THREW HIM HITS LIKE MY BACK IS SORE...WHY CAN'T GUYS BE MORE LIKE YOU (her and I have had sex in the past, as a matter of fact, we now have what is called a 10 oclock rule, meaning if she is over my hosue after 10 o'clock, I am assuming she wants some ****, which is my usual rule of thumb for any woman"


Back to my point. The woman is going to do 1 of two things. She is going to smile, lay down with you, kick off her shoes and in a sigh of relief say "thank god", and you will see all the sexual tension leave the room at that point. Allot of girls even become more frisky at that point becasuse the move ot make the first move is off.

OR

They pull back. Nuff said.

if the later happens, assuming you did not wait unil the end of the movie titanic to do this, you have not wasted 4 hours of your life watching a movie you don't want to watch in the hopes of getting ass that was never obtainable in the first place. I made this mistake the the girl above a couple of years ago. I stayed up to 5 freakin o'clock with this chick because her "bf was out of town" hoping to get some ass and made no move the entire night. I saw her about a year later and she said I made her feel uncomfortable because I was pressing her too hard, but she respected where I was coming from (and when she left her BF, because she knew I had an interest in her that was sexual, guess where she came to?)

this will tell you everything you need to know

to answer the question about the post.... it's only a waste of time if you take away from improving yourself to see her.

you're a ****ing genious. great post my friend

 

[backbreaker]

experience my friend....experience (thanks)


I've had a woman tell me I came on too fast before. In case my (old) friends ever wonderwed what really happened when they weren't around, one of them hooked me up with his sister in laws best friend, who was cute but not HOT, but doable, very doable. She gives me this line (we met at a jazz bar) that she is going back off to college in 2 weeks, blah blah blah. I give her my number, she give me hers. We Exchance calls for like 3 days (we met on a Wednesday night). so Saturday she calls me and tells me she is going to be in a wedding all day long but when she is done she wants to see me and asks ME CAN SHE COME OVER MY HOUSE LATER THAT NIGHT.

so given my previous post, you know what's going though my head. it's in the bag. chalk up the stat sheet.

So she comes over like at 11:15 at night and we are watching a movie. I didn't do the come here move, I jus tput my arm around her, or whatever and I could tell she tensed up so I backed off. i made some BS excuse about me having to get up in the morning.. actually it was the truth but if we were having sex I wouldn't have kicked her out, and let her go.

so 2 days later my friend calls me up cracking up laughing and tells me that she told his sister who told him that I was moving too fast and that I needed to slow down, who I don't respect her for the person she is, blah blah blah... my other friend, who was over when she came so he can verify the time she came, looked at me and said "dude, she came over at mightnight, what did she expect, to play scrabble?"

At least I get comfort knowing I put it in her mind that you don't go over men's house at mightnight and not expect them to think about sex. it's a tough job but someone has to do it.

I usually sleep with women who are a little older than I am. I'm 23 and I don't do it on purpose, I guess it's what I do/the places I go to that I meet owmen, they seem to be a little older than me (but sitl hot).. late 20's early 30's. Don't get anywhere near the problems with this age group then with women my age/younger. The girl I was referring two was a year younger than me. I had a woman over my house month week that used MY move on ME! She's taller than I am by a co uple of inches and she laid behind me nibbling on my neck.. I said 'look here woman... you can't be stealing my style" most women who have been in the game before or for awhile now the score.