Girl naked in my bed twice - No sex

[Crissco]

WTF is up with this. I had this girl naked in my bed twice, we did everything except sex. Everytime i tryed to put it in she pulled away.

She blew me, jacked me off, i ate her out, fingered her, came on her, and in her mouth, but no sex. I even rubbed my di*k along her cl*t all night, even in the riding position. I dont get this. She said she wants to take it slow. Even though I got laid twice this week by two different girls already but this is bugging me a bit....Any ideas?

 

[Young Stallion]

Why is it that AIDS came across my mind when I read this.

If you got two other girls on the go, let this one slide away. She either has big issues psychologically or physically that she does not want you to know about.

 

[Crissco]

Ive thought about that also. Some hang up. But honesty out of every girl ive been with shes more of one of the normal ones that ive been with. Personality wise. Going to school for neuro-science.

 

[Warrior74]

What, you don't know how to play 'just the tip'? Just put it in or kick her to the curb. I threw a chic out of my apartment in college because she played that game. Listen if you want to let me rub my junk on your junk and say no when I try to put it in, you're playing games and need to GTFO.

 

[Mike32ct]

Hard to say. Three possibilities:

1. Virgin

2. Has a boyfriend. Remember it's not "cheating" unless you stick it in.

3. Conservative type stringing you along for a relationship

 

[floydb25]

If your analysis is correct - she could just be a decent one who doesn't want to just bang and leave. Or, she needs more time to feel comfortable sexually. She's still doing virtually everything short of sex, so I see no problems. It's not like she's teasing you - then not letting her touch you - with some BS excuse to follow.

 

[Mike32ct]

Agreed. Sorry if I was overly negative/cynical with #3. It could well be a decent girl looking for more than a fling.

"Stringing along" wasn't the best way to phrase it.

 

[Tiguere]

Her treatment for her latest STD doesnt permit her to have sex for another two weeks.

 

[perseverance]

2. Has a boyfriend. Remember it's not "cheating" unless you stick it in.

That's the funniest thing I've read on this forum.

 

[tomato]

WTF is up with this. I had this girl naked in my bed twice, we did everything except sex. Everytime i tryed to put it in she pulled away.

She blew me, jacked me off, i ate her out, fingered her, came on her, and in her mouth, but no sex. I even rubbed my di*k along her cl*t all night, even in the riding position. I dont get this. She said she wants to take it slow. Even though I got laid twice this week by two different girls already but this is bugging me a bit....Any ideas?

I had it twice now - you using condoms right? its just LMR I think - nothing wrong - just keep going like nothing happend and bust lmr next time

 

[Crissco]

Could be anything. If i keep this one around only time will tell. I hit my ego a bit though. I'm def not used to this. Technically its the 3rd date. I get it the first or second.

 

[the_great_gaia]

You should've sucked on her neck like a lemon.. they ALL fall to that one.

 

[Mike32ct]

That's the funniest thing I've read on this forum.

Yeah that's chick logic.

I pulled a chick once on vacation and we did EVERYTHING imaginable except intercourse. She didn't want to cross the line and "cheat" on her bf.

We made out hard. I fingered her, actually all but fisted her. Sucked t@ts and got bj. But she would not let me penetrate her. She told me she was loyal to her bf back home.

OP: Don't let this hurt your ego or confidence one bit. You're scoring like crazy. This is nothing to worry about. She wants you, but is holding HERSELF back for some possible reason listed above. Don't sweat it.

 

[loveshogun]

Or, you know, you could realize it's not a big f*ckin' deal.

If you're getting laid enough - which you seem to be - it's only bothering you because of your ego.

Doesn't matter how Don Juan you are, not everyone wants to jump on your c*ck right away. Sorry bro, that's just the way it is. Take it easy. It's not like she took half your money, right?

 

[Crissco]

You guys are right. Its only bothering me because I'm not used to it. And it hit my ego. I'll hang out with her again in a week and see where it goes.

Thanks for the answers.

 

[Crissco]

Last night she slept over. We took a bath tg. Shower. Drank wine. Slept naked. Did everything we did the other nights but no sex!! She told me this. Got to me a bit: she doesn't want to make the same mistakes she did in the past to get hurt again. Got out of a relasionship a yr ago and had a cppl randoms. But kept calling me hot and very sexual throughout the night but like I said. No sex. I'm thinking of going NC for a week or so. Don't know what else to do here

 

[Mike32ct]

Three things you could do....

Mild
Be patient and hang in there.

Or

Moderate
Go NC.

Or
Extreme (ie drop the bomb)

(Say this matter of factly, not showing any sign of anger or frustration.)


HB: Hey Crissco, are we gonna get together again?

Crissco: Well, the thing is, I'm not really not looking for a FRIEND.

 

[Mike32ct]

Typo. Forgive my double-negative.

Correction:

"Well, the thing is, I'm really not looking for a friend."


Women know exactly what that means.

 

[Crissco]

I'm gonna go NC for a bit to see where her interest lies.

 

[Jariel]

I don't get the problem. If she said she wants to take it slow, you can either stick around and have fun (and it sounds like you're having plenty of fun!) or you can throw a tantrum.

No girl wants to feel like a slvt and a lot of girls want to screen a guy a bit first before taking it further. I'd say that's a good thing and shows she's not some trashy slag who has a habit of banging guys she's just met. I respect that.

The way I overcome last minute resistance is to play up my nice guy, cuddle and bond a bit rather than going in for the kill. It makes them feel reassured and helps her to justify it to herself.