"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girl moving wayyy tooooo fast

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I know this has redflags written ALL over it.

Girl I have known for bout 9 years casually, well she got my number from a mutal friend and put me on ropes to "guess" who she was for about a week. Very elaborate.

Well thats all cool right?

Well we started texting eachother a lot, like 50 a day or something...just casual bull****...

Then the last couple of days this thing just BLEW the heck up.

Shes like 23, has a 3 year old and a 4 month old. Shes attractive, good personality, no drugs or anything...but I'll be damned if the father of her second kid isn't doing life right now for man/del of meth as a 3 strike offender.

I don't know man, she wanted to go to town today so i said "yah" cause I was going anyway, innocent enough right?

Well she tags her kids along with her and we end up spending some god awful 5 hours of screaming children.

Well I was thinking "shes nice enough as a friend, probably be cool to hang out with"

right after I dropped her off she started texting me like mad asking me what I wanted for breakfast and ****...nutty stuff...then wants me to take her to town again next week and hang out...come over and stay the night with me...

I mean I would def. sleep with this girl, but absolutely no relationship here...I know she is hella vunerable right now and probably just picking me to be a father to her kids or something.

Honestly I am a bit beside myself right now, I did nothing to lead this girl on but shes just going freakin crazy on me like I am her new "man" now.

How do I let her down easily without breaking her apart?

Wow..just wow:eek:

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I don't know how this always happens to me, I guess women see me as a good father figure or something...similar things like this have happened to me THREE times in the last several years. I'm wanting a buddy to sleep with and all of a sudden I get thrown into some JAD situation (Just Add Dad)

Is there something wrong here? I'm not an AFC, I'm not an overly aggressive person...but I alpha in most situations...passively...(if that sounds right) Really i have no reason to be aggressive with people, I have a bad habit of unintentionally intimidating people...but whatever

I just cant for the life of me figure out what attracts single mother nutjobs to me. I can't pick up a single non baggage woman to save my life but these freakin single moms come to me like a magnet.

I'm boggled
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Its nothing wrong with you. Your just sticking your nose where it don't belong. Don't raise someone else's DNA. She just wants someone to take care of her kids and she is putting up a front so you fall for her trap! Can you see what she is doing? She wants to spend time with you, cook you food, sex you up. Then, once you think she is the one... Your stuck with the kids while she goes out and fvcks other guys behinde yo back!! Now, I could be completly wrong but, chances are high she wants to use you. Just tell her your not looking for a relationship right now and be cool about it. But, given the fact she "likes you" I would fool around with her for a lil while then saddle up your horse and head for the next girl in line.
 
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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Its nothing wrong with you. Your just sticking your nose where it don't belong. Don't raise someone else's DNA. She just wants someone to take care of her kids and she is putting up a front so you fall for her trap! Can you see what she is doing? She wants to spend time with you, cook you food, sex you up. Then, once you think she is the one... Your stuck with the kids while she goes out and fvcks other guys behinde yo back!! Now, I could be completly wrong but, chances are high she wants to use you. Just tell her your not looking for a relationship right now and be cool about it. But, given the fact she "likes you" I would fool around with her for a lil while then saddle up your horse and head for the next girl in line.
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Personally I don't think fooling around with this girl is good advice...just tell hey LJBF's, she'll understand !!
 
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Be careful she doesn't trick you into getting her pregnant dude.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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