"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl moving wayyy tooooo fast

Moofahsa

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I know this has redflags written ALL over it.

Girl I have known for bout 9 years casually, well she got my number from a mutal friend and put me on ropes to "guess" who she was for about a week. Very elaborate.

Well thats all cool right?

Well we started texting eachother a lot, like 50 a day or something...just casual bull****...

Then the last couple of days this thing just BLEW the heck up.

Shes like 23, has a 3 year old and a 4 month old. Shes attractive, good personality, no drugs or anything...but I'll be damned if the father of her second kid isn't doing life right now for man/del of meth as a 3 strike offender.

I don't know man, she wanted to go to town today so i said "yah" cause I was going anyway, innocent enough right?

Well she tags her kids along with her and we end up spending some god awful 5 hours of screaming children.

Well I was thinking "shes nice enough as a friend, probably be cool to hang out with"

right after I dropped her off she started texting me like mad asking me what I wanted for breakfast and ****...nutty stuff...then wants me to take her to town again next week and hang out...come over and stay the night with me...

I mean I would def. sleep with this girl, but absolutely no relationship here...I know she is hella vunerable right now and probably just picking me to be a father to her kids or something.

Honestly I am a bit beside myself right now, I did nothing to lead this girl on but shes just going freakin crazy on me like I am her new "man" now.

How do I let her down easily without breaking her apart?

Wow..just wow:eek:

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I don't know how this always happens to me, I guess women see me as a good father figure or something...similar things like this have happened to me THREE times in the last several years. I'm wanting a buddy to sleep with and all of a sudden I get thrown into some JAD situation (Just Add Dad)

Is there something wrong here? I'm not an AFC, I'm not an overly aggressive person...but I alpha in most situations...passively...(if that sounds right) Really i have no reason to be aggressive with people, I have a bad habit of unintentionally intimidating people...but whatever

I just cant for the life of me figure out what attracts single mother nutjobs to me. I can't pick up a single non baggage woman to save my life but these freakin single moms come to me like a magnet.

I'm boggled
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I.A.F.Y.B.

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Its nothing wrong with you. Your just sticking your nose where it don't belong. Don't raise someone else's DNA. She just wants someone to take care of her kids and she is putting up a front so you fall for her trap! Can you see what she is doing? She wants to spend time with you, cook you food, sex you up. Then, once you think she is the one... Your stuck with the kids while she goes out and fvcks other guys behinde yo back!! Now, I could be completly wrong but, chances are high she wants to use you. Just tell her your not looking for a relationship right now and be cool about it. But, given the fact she "likes you" I would fool around with her for a lil while then saddle up your horse and head for the next girl in line.
 

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I.A.F.Y.B. said:
Its nothing wrong with you. Your just sticking your nose where it don't belong. Don't raise someone else's DNA. She just wants someone to take care of her kids and she is putting up a front so you fall for her trap! Can you see what she is doing? She wants to spend time with you, cook you food, sex you up. Then, once you think she is the one... Your stuck with the kids while she goes out and fvcks other guys behinde yo back!! Now, I could be completly wrong but, chances are high she wants to use you. Just tell her your not looking for a relationship right now and be cool about it. But, given the fact she "likes you" I would fool around with her for a lil while then saddle up your horse and head for the next girl in line.
Personally I don't think fooling around with this girl is good advice...just tell hey LJBF's, she'll understand !!
 

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Be careful she doesn't trick you into getting her pregnant dude.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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