"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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girl miscarriaged, back to normality!

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After couple of weeks after finding out she's pregnant the doctor told her that the she might have had a miscarriage. We both feel a bit sad about it but also relieved, it happened naturally so there's no blame on anyone's part.

Since we've just got together, how this will panned out in the future I have no idea. I guess from now on I'll just concentrate on having fun and see what happens.

One thing for sure is I will use protection from now!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Ironic fact for all the theocratic nutjobs - God is problably the biggest abortionist of them all.
 
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Ironic fact for all the theocratic nutjobs - God is problably the biggest abortionist of them all.
And the modern day Atheist is the biggest cancer to society. So I guess it's 1-1 on the scoreboard.
 

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perseverance said:
And the modern day Atheist is the biggest cancer to society. So I guess it's 1-1 on the scoreboard.
Right, because religious people never do anything wrong. Tell me, who is more popular with the priests, choirboys or alter-boys?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Right, because religious people never do anything wrong. Tell me, who is more popular with the priests, choirboys or alter-boys?
I wouldn't know I'll ask my Priest next time I visit Church? Oh wait, I don't visit Church, but I do believe in God.

Some Religious people have always done wrong, not all of them, but some of them. However the decline of religion in the Western world seems to have gone hand in hand with a decay in morality in the Western world. I mean it could be a complete coincidence, I notice you only choose to pick on Christianity, I wonder if you would be big enough to level that kind of criticism at Judaism or Islam? Probably not - Jews and Muslims don't tend to take kindly to defamation of their religion by some holier-than-thou Atheist who thinks his excrement is made of 24 carrot Gold.
 

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I wouldn't know I'll ask my Priest next time I visit Church? Oh wait, I don't visit Church, but I do believe in God.

Some Religious people have always done wrong, not all of them, but some of them. However the decline of religion in the Western world seems to have gone hand in hand with a decay in morality in the Western world. I mean it could be a complete coincidence, I notice you only choose to pick on Christianity, I wonder if you would be big enough to level that kind of criticism at Judaism or Islam? Probably not - Jews and Muslims don't tend to take kindly to defamation of their religion by some holier-than-thou Atheist who thinks his excrement is made of 24 carrot Gold.

How many Atheists flew planes into the twin towers? How many wars have been fought over Atheism? None.

I don't care what religion you follow because if you look at the history, just about every religion has been baptized in blood. Even the Buddhists were once considered violent.

The fact of the matter is some of the worst atrocities in history have been caused in the name of Religion. You see a decay in society, I see an improvement. I am glad to live in a society where people can't be put to death for practicing witchcraft(not that I do) or get stoned for not falling in line with what the church wants.
 

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guys this post is not about religion, leave it out. I just want to get it off my chest, no one in r/l knows about this so you guys are the only ones I can tell.

This means I am back in the game, since she had a miscarriage(am not happy about it) I feel no more responsibilities towards her. Feel so much more free now, while she was pregnant I felt sometimes I had to be careful what I say or do. Bring on some more plates...
 
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How many Atheists flew planes into the twin towers? How many wars have been fought over Atheism? None.

I don't care what religion you follow because if you look at the history, just about every religion has been baptized in blood. Even the Buddhists were once considered violent.

The fact of the matter is some of the worst atrocities in history have been caused in the name of Religion. You see a decay in society, I see an improvement. I am glad to live in a society where people can't be put to death for practicing witchcraft(not that I do) or get stoned for not falling in line with what the church wants.
A Terrorist is a Terrorist, you can't blame Islam for the lunacy of several men who hijacked aeroplanes and flew them into the World Trade Centre. Islam is not at fault for the actions of a minority who have twisted the words in the Quran to suit their own twisted agenda. Osama Bin Laden was no more a follower of Islam than I am and I'm a Roman Catholic.

You see an improvement? I see a break down in communities, I see higher divorce rates, I see children growing up in one parent households. I see people of my generation walking around with no respect for themselves, no respect for their fellow human beings and no respect for the society they live in. If that's an improvement then I despair for humanity because something is seriously wrong.
 

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perseverance said:
A Terrorist is a Terrorist, you can't blame Islam for the lunacy of several men who hijacked aeroplanes and flew them into the World Trade Centre. Islam is not at fault for the actions of a minority who have twisted the words in the Quran to suit their own twisted agenda. Osama Bin Laden was no more a follower of Islam than I am and I'm a Roman Catholic.
3000 people died on 9-11.
6 million Jews died in the holocaust.
30 million people died in the Taiping Rebellion.


How many people have to die before you admit that religion was a major factor in those tragedies?

I agree that Osama isn't a true Muslim, but that doesn't change the fact that he used religion as tool to cause death and destruction.


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You see an improvement? I see a break down in communities, I see higher divorce rates, I see children growing up in one parent households. I see people of my generation walking around with no respect for themselves, no respect for their fellow human beings and no respect for the society they live in. If that's an improvement then I despair for humanity because something is seriously wrong.
I see a society where kids aren't separated in schools by their colour. I see people who aren't staying in unhealthy/abusive marriages because others might judge them. I see a generation of people who are able to do things that their parents or grandparents could only dream of doing.

If you want to live in a more religious society, then by all means move to one. Sure you might get killed for voting for the wrong party, but hey at least you'll be in a more religious society.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Htienvu said:
guys this post is not about religion, leave it out. I just want to get it off my chest, no one in r/l knows about this so you guys are the only ones I can tell.

This means I am back in the game, since she had a miscarriage(am not happy about it) I feel no more responsibilities towards her. Feel so much more free now, while she was pregnant I felt sometimes I had to be careful what I say or do. Bring on some more plates...

Ok, I'll drop the religion thing. I have to ask though, how much have you talked to her about this? A miscarriage can be (and usually is) an extremely tough thing to go through.
 

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SharinganUser said:
Ok, I'll drop the religion thing. I have to ask though, how much have you talked to her about this? A miscarriage can be (and usually is) an extremely tough thing to go through.
We have not had a chance to talk about it properly yet, she just been to the doctor today. I am seeing her tomorrow night so will have a proper conversation with her. I don't know what to say about it though, I guess I will just console her if she feels down about it.
 

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The good ol' kick her down the stairs trick never fails, eh?

On a side note, cut the religion flaming before I go Nazi Moderator on your asses.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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