Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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girl miscarriaged, back to normality!

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After couple of weeks after finding out she's pregnant the doctor told her that the she might have had a miscarriage. We both feel a bit sad about it but also relieved, it happened naturally so there's no blame on anyone's part.

Since we've just got together, how this will panned out in the future I have no idea. I guess from now on I'll just concentrate on having fun and see what happens.

One thing for sure is I will use protection from now!
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Ironic fact for all the theocratic nutjobs - God is problably the biggest abortionist of them all.
 
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Ironic fact for all the theocratic nutjobs - God is problably the biggest abortionist of them all.
And the modern day Atheist is the biggest cancer to society. So I guess it's 1-1 on the scoreboard.
 

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perseverance said:
And the modern day Atheist is the biggest cancer to society. So I guess it's 1-1 on the scoreboard.
Right, because religious people never do anything wrong. Tell me, who is more popular with the priests, choirboys or alter-boys?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Right, because religious people never do anything wrong. Tell me, who is more popular with the priests, choirboys or alter-boys?
I wouldn't know I'll ask my Priest next time I visit Church? Oh wait, I don't visit Church, but I do believe in God.

Some Religious people have always done wrong, not all of them, but some of them. However the decline of religion in the Western world seems to have gone hand in hand with a decay in morality in the Western world. I mean it could be a complete coincidence, I notice you only choose to pick on Christianity, I wonder if you would be big enough to level that kind of criticism at Judaism or Islam? Probably not - Jews and Muslims don't tend to take kindly to defamation of their religion by some holier-than-thou Atheist who thinks his excrement is made of 24 carrot Gold.
 

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I wouldn't know I'll ask my Priest next time I visit Church? Oh wait, I don't visit Church, but I do believe in God.

Some Religious people have always done wrong, not all of them, but some of them. However the decline of religion in the Western world seems to have gone hand in hand with a decay in morality in the Western world. I mean it could be a complete coincidence, I notice you only choose to pick on Christianity, I wonder if you would be big enough to level that kind of criticism at Judaism or Islam? Probably not - Jews and Muslims don't tend to take kindly to defamation of their religion by some holier-than-thou Atheist who thinks his excrement is made of 24 carrot Gold.

How many Atheists flew planes into the twin towers? How many wars have been fought over Atheism? None.

I don't care what religion you follow because if you look at the history, just about every religion has been baptized in blood. Even the Buddhists were once considered violent.

The fact of the matter is some of the worst atrocities in history have been caused in the name of Religion. You see a decay in society, I see an improvement. I am glad to live in a society where people can't be put to death for practicing witchcraft(not that I do) or get stoned for not falling in line with what the church wants.
 

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guys this post is not about religion, leave it out. I just want to get it off my chest, no one in r/l knows about this so you guys are the only ones I can tell.

This means I am back in the game, since she had a miscarriage(am not happy about it) I feel no more responsibilities towards her. Feel so much more free now, while she was pregnant I felt sometimes I had to be careful what I say or do. Bring on some more plates...
 
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How many Atheists flew planes into the twin towers? How many wars have been fought over Atheism? None.

I don't care what religion you follow because if you look at the history, just about every religion has been baptized in blood. Even the Buddhists were once considered violent.

The fact of the matter is some of the worst atrocities in history have been caused in the name of Religion. You see a decay in society, I see an improvement. I am glad to live in a society where people can't be put to death for practicing witchcraft(not that I do) or get stoned for not falling in line with what the church wants.
A Terrorist is a Terrorist, you can't blame Islam for the lunacy of several men who hijacked aeroplanes and flew them into the World Trade Centre. Islam is not at fault for the actions of a minority who have twisted the words in the Quran to suit their own twisted agenda. Osama Bin Laden was no more a follower of Islam than I am and I'm a Roman Catholic.

You see an improvement? I see a break down in communities, I see higher divorce rates, I see children growing up in one parent households. I see people of my generation walking around with no respect for themselves, no respect for their fellow human beings and no respect for the society they live in. If that's an improvement then I despair for humanity because something is seriously wrong.
 

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perseverance said:
A Terrorist is a Terrorist, you can't blame Islam for the lunacy of several men who hijacked aeroplanes and flew them into the World Trade Centre. Islam is not at fault for the actions of a minority who have twisted the words in the Quran to suit their own twisted agenda. Osama Bin Laden was no more a follower of Islam than I am and I'm a Roman Catholic.
3000 people died on 9-11.
6 million Jews died in the holocaust.
30 million people died in the Taiping Rebellion.


How many people have to die before you admit that religion was a major factor in those tragedies?

I agree that Osama isn't a true Muslim, but that doesn't change the fact that he used religion as tool to cause death and destruction.


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You see an improvement? I see a break down in communities, I see higher divorce rates, I see children growing up in one parent households. I see people of my generation walking around with no respect for themselves, no respect for their fellow human beings and no respect for the society they live in. If that's an improvement then I despair for humanity because something is seriously wrong.
I see a society where kids aren't separated in schools by their colour. I see people who aren't staying in unhealthy/abusive marriages because others might judge them. I see a generation of people who are able to do things that their parents or grandparents could only dream of doing.

If you want to live in a more religious society, then by all means move to one. Sure you might get killed for voting for the wrong party, but hey at least you'll be in a more religious society.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Htienvu said:
guys this post is not about religion, leave it out. I just want to get it off my chest, no one in r/l knows about this so you guys are the only ones I can tell.

This means I am back in the game, since she had a miscarriage(am not happy about it) I feel no more responsibilities towards her. Feel so much more free now, while she was pregnant I felt sometimes I had to be careful what I say or do. Bring on some more plates...

Ok, I'll drop the religion thing. I have to ask though, how much have you talked to her about this? A miscarriage can be (and usually is) an extremely tough thing to go through.
 

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SharinganUser said:
Ok, I'll drop the religion thing. I have to ask though, how much have you talked to her about this? A miscarriage can be (and usually is) an extremely tough thing to go through.
We have not had a chance to talk about it properly yet, she just been to the doctor today. I am seeing her tomorrow night so will have a proper conversation with her. I don't know what to say about it though, I guess I will just console her if she feels down about it.
 

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The good ol' kick her down the stairs trick never fails, eh?

On a side note, cut the religion flaming before I go Nazi Moderator on your asses.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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