"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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girl mimicing everything i do?

godjwood

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hey so i got this girl thats real in to me.. she flew from austraila to visit me in the states..

anyway i like her too.. but ive noticed she copies alot of things i do.. im not sure what to make of it.

i smoke pot, she visited then she started smoking. i have an electric blanket.. she just got an electric blanket. i say certain things.. shes starts saying the same things. etc etc.

im not sure what to make of it.. its almost like a turn off to me. like shes tryin to hard to make me like her or something. ive never had anything like this before.. shes like adapting my hobbies and stuff. i dont really like it, i dont want to be dating a clone of me i want an individual ya know? what do you think? ever experienced it before?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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BuckwildNYC

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She's an AFC man.............now u see whats so unattractive about being one :crackup:
 

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maybe she is trying to become more like you in order to replace you.

okay maybe not..but seriously she may think that you would like her or find her more interesting if you both have the same interest. Be straight forward with her, (I.e) you like the fact that we have different interest and are still compatible, you like her for her and she does not need to change in order for you to like her..ect...
 

penkitten

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dude... she wants you to think she is cool.
she wants you to sit back and say "gosh darn it we have alot in common"
she is trying to win you over.

its that simple.
its a simple form of flattery that will end up getting on your nerves.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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shredhead7

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Maybe you're just opening her eyes to new things, nothing wrong with that. We all pick slang and start using it. She likes you, be happy!
 

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Or since your her contact in whatever country you are in, she is just trying to fit in. She thinks what your doing is the normal and cool thing to do. Give her a break, and some play....see what happens when you go to the land down under, where something and men plunder....
 

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blackbelt i love that song. GONNA EAT SOME OF MY VEGEMITE SANDWICH!
 

LovelyLady

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IMHO, she is just trying you on "for size" to see if your daily habits really fit with her, or are just interesting temporarily.

She isn't cloning herself to you - don't think for a minute she has lost who she is. She already knows that. Accept that this is what most women do to varying degrees - if you actually want to be with women. (I don't mean this sexually - but we are not wired like you men... you know?)

It's a test of sorts - but one you have no control over passing or failing, because you are just who you are. She will either find she can really embrace and be comfortable with these small idiocyncracies/habits/ways of yours, and will relax about them, or she will move on. If you want to keep her, you need to keep her warmer that the electric blanket does. LOL

If I were you, I'd be more worried that she will get bored with you... smoking pot, electric blankets, slang... how about giving her some experiences she can REALLY write home about?! LOL

Also, she probably isn't even aware of Why she is doing it - most people aren't. But intuitively she is deciding about you.
 

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My psycho bordeline EX girlfriend did that.

I do not say yours are psyko, just that mine are.

She took over my intressts and chamelont herself to be a perfect clone of me.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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blackbelt2k

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you should get a dog like mine..every chick that comes into my area and has some kind of skirt on, he goes up to them and sticks his nose in their snatch...if he does it more than once, you know that its GOOD, if not STAY AWAY...lol
 
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