Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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girl likes me but doesn't want to see me..what's going on?

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carlitos

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the girl that i'm seeing now is a little bit traditional..not exactly the party girl type..the first time we hooked up it was great..then one day i went to a party without her with a bunch of other girls and i think she got kinda pissed cus after that she started playing games with me..like flaking on me on purpose etc..but i think that she still cares..last conversation we had she said something like "ok face it..we both didn't put in enough efforts to see each other" so i don't really know what that means..i mean i asked her to come out a few times but she didn't..anyways my questions are:
1. have any of you guys ever been in my situation?
2. what should i do about it? should i play it cool or give her more attention if i'm actually seeking some kind of relationship? (maybe the more traditional type of girls like to be chased somewhat?)
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Next her simple as that....Your the prize if she's worth your time then qualify her to see if she is lucky to be with you. You can play it cool but don't be needy. If she doesn't bite then "fuuck it" who cares NEXT hottie.
 
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To answer your questions:

1. Yes.

2. Depends on what exactly you did. Were you two just dating (and not exclusively)? If so, she shouldn't be up in your business like that. If you two were exclusively dating, then you should've invited her to the party. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Would you like your girlfriend to go to a party with a bunch of boys without inviting you? I sure wouldn't.
 
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The Deacon said:
To answer your questions:

1. Yes.

2. Depends on what exactly you did. Were you two just dating (and not exclusively)? If so, she shouldn't be up in your business like that. If you two were exclusively dating, then you should've invited her to the party. Do unto others as you would have others do unto you. Would you like your girlfriend to go to a party with a bunch of boys without inviting you? I sure wouldn't.
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ok...you're right..we're just casually dating but still..i know what you mean. so now she's flaking on me a lot on purpose and said something like "we both havent tried hard enough to see each other.." i don't really understand what's going on...i always thought if you like someone you'd wanna see them..but at the same time girls have their ego too so i assume if she thinks she's not important then she won't see me..
anyways what do you think is the best thing to do in this situation?
 
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carlitos said:
the girl that i'm seeing now is a little bit traditional..not exactly the party girl type..the first time we hooked up it was great..then one day i went to a party without her with a bunch of other girls and i think she got kinda pissed cus after that she started playing games with me..like flaking on me on purpose etc..but i think that she still cares..last conversation we had she said something like "ok face it..we both didn't put in enough efforts to see each other" so i don't really know what that means..i mean i asked her to come out a few times but she didn't..anyways my questions are:
1. have any of you guys ever been in my situation?
2. what should i do about it? should i play it cool or give her more attention if i'm actually seeking some kind of relationship? (maybe the more traditional type of girls like to be chased somewhat?)
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Pay her the attention that you think she deserves.know what you want and be honest about it. Try and get a good feeling of where she is coming from, all a bonus to you.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Window of opportunity...lost. Interest level...dropped. You need to move on and do better next time.
 
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Since you're not quite sure, give her one more chance. Ask her out on a date. Make the time & place clear & firm. If she shows signs of flakiness as you're making the plan, tell her that you need a definite confirmation now, not in a few days, not the day before the date, as you're a busy man. If she still goes with her BS games, ignore her from then on & go game other girls. You don't need to delete her number & all that yet. She will be chasing you after that if she's really interested and realises that her silly games don't work.
 
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