"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl leaves my friend, goes for *******

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My friend, Matt, was very close to dating this girl. However, this guy Greg knew her too and treated her like crap. Greg was supposed to meet the girl at a bar, but instead he purposely didn't show up, and was laughing... he seemed to enjoy ditching her. Now the girl pays Greg all the attention. It seems girls are always complaining about how guys always leave them, or are mean to them, but that's always the type of guy they go for... which leaves the following conclusion: girls are mentally retarded.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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What a discovery, you are probably the first person to come to that conclusion.


Anyone that says girls are retarded is just angry or mad at women in general. It isn't their fault that their minds work differently. Millions of years of instincts and what not being built up, they can't help it if they are attracted to jerks.
 

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not all girls are like that. Just the insecure ones who look to other people for thier own self worth. aka party girls.
 
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Wee said:
What a discovery, you are probably the first person to come to that conclusion.


Anyone that says girls are retarded is just angry or mad at women in general. It isn't their fault that their minds work differently. Millions of years of instincts and what not being built up, they can't help it if they are attracted to jerks.
Ok, here's an analogy. If I go around all the time, telling truck drivers they always try to run me over, but then go out in the middle of the highway in front of a truck, that would be doing the same thing. Maybe I evolved differently than the truck driver.
 

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Bordering on rude really isn't the way to do this stuff. It's still not the ideal frame to come from in terms of enjoying life and being successful with women. It is simply more effective, if not too extreme or seemingly backlash for a lack of success with women, than the worst possible frame of timid mommas boy. Timid mommas boys and woman haters are terrible frames to come from, especially since they are so transparent.

Well, let's just take a look at what could be going on:

Greg is to some degree showing the following:( there is much better ways of doing this stuff, let me add, and I'm not endorsing what he did as a technique or anything):

He's not needy. Most guys are total wussies who either try to hide their feelings in a way that comes across as really insecure/boring, or come unglued at the seams and profess their love and devotion before she's even sure if she likes him adding a mountain of pressure for her to recipocate or smothering her with hoardes of effection (see footnotes).

He's socially proofed. He can afford to blow girls off, implying he has other options. Indicating that women find him worthwhile. It's like buying a name brand car versus a ****titueuze 500.

He's created competition. To the girl there must be something wrong with her. Why would he blow her off unless he had something better waiting for him? To her, it feels like he has moved forward and she is left behind. She wasn't good enough for him, and now she needs validation.


You can take the frame of "I'm OK, you're OK" you just can't look at the world and see "I'm NOT ok, you're OK"

Footnotes:

Note: Studies show men fall in love first and hardest, although to some degree the man falling in love can cause women to go into a similar state--also keeps this in mind. Everything is both black and white. This is just basic state stuff, if you are in a given state strong enough it becomes more likely that the other person will also step into it. I've done this on many occasions, when you do the right sequence of steps from a place of power, giving yourself fully can overwhelm her and suck her completely into a state of being swept off her feet.

What causes people to feel in love is feeling that their love is being returned somewhat, bot not yet fullly, with the belief that it will be fully returned at some point in the future.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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