"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl Keeps Wanting to Hook me up with her friends

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Hi All,

So I met some girls in the same industry as me through a coworker of mine. After meeting her I ran into her several times, and every time she says that I should get lunch with her and a coworker of her's that she wants to set me up with. (We work pretty much 2 blocks away from each other).

I never got lunch with her, but I did meet the girl that she wanted to hook me up with one day when I dropped something off for her at the office (for strictly work purposes). I ran into her again tonight, she asked me what I thought about that girl. I said she wasn't my type. Then she proposed lunch again, and wants to hook me up with another coworker of hers.

What exactly is she doing here? Is this just some sort of weird/passive way of hitting on me?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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prairiedog24

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I've had this happen to me before too... never figured it out.

I think it's a tiny part hitting on you, and a tiny part just female boredom and meddling.
 

teddy240

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You have a woman, that is setting you up with different girls, i think you have a great situation. Your getting dates, with no investment. Id stick with it
 

mahoney

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this isn't a bad situation surely?

Also girls love doing this kind of thing! There is nothing weird about it, and no hidden agenda about herself
 

PDubb75

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Are you trying to get with the girl that is hooking you up? That was my issue. I was trying to hook up with this girl, and she was trying to hook me up with her best friend. But before that, she asked what I thought about a different friend of hers. That was extremely frustrating.

If you aren't trying to get with this girl (and maybe even if you are)... ride the wave! Let her keep bringing girls to you.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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ArcBound

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prairiedog24 said:
I've had this happen to me before too... never figured it out.

I think it's a tiny part hitting on you, and a tiny part just female boredom and meddling.
This. I've seen girls with boyfriends who I've suspected had a crush on me and later on they would try to set me up with girls or get sad when they found out I didn't have a girlfriend at the time. I think its just fun for them to play matchmaker.
 

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Yeah, this has happened a few times. Some girls really dig the whole matchmaker thing. I agree that sometimes it seems like they're flirting, but other times it's come across as more platonic. Either way, not always a bad thing.
 

BadNews

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Whats wrong with a person doing 1/2 the work for you? As long as shes not trying to set you up with cows who cares..have fun with it. Next time she wants to 'do lunch' with her and a friend, you might try saying "i'd be interested in meeting your friend, but how about i just take you for lunch this time?" or something along those lines.. then gauge her response.
 
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