"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Girl keeps on giving me a big smile & staring at me as she passes, how do I initiate?

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I don't want to come off with a WOW, A GIRL SEEMS LIKE SHE MIGHT BE INTERESTED vibe. So what's the best react to this without making it seem like she's a big deal?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Anything really. "Good morning." even works.

The less you plan it out, the better your conversation will go. If she's reading a book, ask her about the book. If she's wearing a shirt that says "Hawaii" ask her if she's been there.

Just normal conversation.
 

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You have to realize that if she is interested you can pretty much say anything. I mean think about it, would you really care about what a hot girl came up to you and started talking to you about?

Just don't offend her and you will be fine. Direct the conversation in a direction that you can both relate to. Also, Smile back.
 

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Demystify said:
I don't want to come off with a WOW, A GIRL SEEMS LIKE SHE MIGHT BE INTERESTED vibe. So what's the best react to this without making it seem like she's a big deal?
It's not "WOW - A girl might like me!" It's "Wow - she's cute; let's stop her and chat!"

If you dumb it down too much, you run the risk of throwing away your confidence as well. Pace yourself. Since you know you'll be seeing her again, you don't have to even # close during the first conversation.

Here's what you say:

Hey...*anything*

Good luck, and just talk about whatever's on your mind. You don't have to have some fancy pickup lines or shyt. The seduction phase comes later ;)

P.S. don't be a dumbass and fake disinterest in her.
Either way, she's not special to you because you haven't even had a conversation yet!
 

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I'm in the Mood said:
P.S. don't be a dumbass and fake disinterest in her.

hahaha, believe me, I've done that enough times to never do it again, I'm not going to be passive anymore at all
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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scream at her 'STOP ****ING STARING ITS CREEPY'


or...


i had this a couple times at university, i tried:

look at her in the eye, smile and say

'hi, im about to get a cup of coffie, want to join me?" whilst keeping eye contact. remember when you ask, your going to have that coffie if shes there or not.. shes unimportant to your coffie drinking.

2 results:

1- she says yes...

2- she says she cant, shes got to be somewhere.

you say 'shame, how about another time, whats your number?'

dont say 'can i have your number?'

if she get out of that then shes just teasing you.
 

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I continually think about an amazing piece of advice I once read- "If you talk to the girl, the worst case senario is that you walk away empty handed, no phone number, no date. If you don't go up to the girl, you're walking straight into that worst case senario without even doing anything!"
Whenever I see a girl I want to approach, if I ever feel anxious, I repeat these words in my head.
If you see a girl smiling at you, or better yet staring at you, it should be a no-brainer. Chances are she already kind of likes you, so it's unlikely you'll say anything to change her mind. So just go up to her, and make conversation. Observe the situation you're in, and play off it. Just have fun, that's the key, don't think of it as a stressful situation!
 

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Does it matter what type of eye contact she gives you? like today i was at this college and this bad chick was walking with her friend and she gave me eye contact but it was the type of eye contact that seemed sorta mixed... like approach me/regulary eye contact that you would give anyone..

and who are these chicks who smile, i never in my life got a smile...eye contact yes, staring yes...no smiles though

and why is it dumb to fake disintrest in her? wont she just get an ego boost if you try and be all interested in her?
 
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