"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Girl keeps on giving me a big smile & staring at me as she passes, how do I initiate?

Demystify

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I don't want to come off with a WOW, A GIRL SEEMS LIKE SHE MIGHT BE INTERESTED vibe. So what's the best react to this without making it seem like she's a big deal?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Anything really. "Good morning." even works.

The less you plan it out, the better your conversation will go. If she's reading a book, ask her about the book. If she's wearing a shirt that says "Hawaii" ask her if she's been there.

Just normal conversation.
 

Pathgen

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You have to realize that if she is interested you can pretty much say anything. I mean think about it, would you really care about what a hot girl came up to you and started talking to you about?

Just don't offend her and you will be fine. Direct the conversation in a direction that you can both relate to. Also, Smile back.
 

I'm in the Mood

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Demystify said:
I don't want to come off with a WOW, A GIRL SEEMS LIKE SHE MIGHT BE INTERESTED vibe. So what's the best react to this without making it seem like she's a big deal?
It's not "WOW - A girl might like me!" It's "Wow - she's cute; let's stop her and chat!"

If you dumb it down too much, you run the risk of throwing away your confidence as well. Pace yourself. Since you know you'll be seeing her again, you don't have to even # close during the first conversation.

Here's what you say:

Hey...*anything*

Good luck, and just talk about whatever's on your mind. You don't have to have some fancy pickup lines or shyt. The seduction phase comes later ;)

P.S. don't be a dumbass and fake disinterest in her.
Either way, she's not special to you because you haven't even had a conversation yet!
 

Demystify

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I'm in the Mood said:
P.S. don't be a dumbass and fake disinterest in her.

hahaha, believe me, I've done that enough times to never do it again, I'm not going to be passive anymore at all
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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scream at her 'STOP ****ING STARING ITS CREEPY'


or...


i had this a couple times at university, i tried:

look at her in the eye, smile and say

'hi, im about to get a cup of coffie, want to join me?" whilst keeping eye contact. remember when you ask, your going to have that coffie if shes there or not.. shes unimportant to your coffie drinking.

2 results:

1- she says yes...

2- she says she cant, shes got to be somewhere.

you say 'shame, how about another time, whats your number?'

dont say 'can i have your number?'

if she get out of that then shes just teasing you.
 

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I continually think about an amazing piece of advice I once read- "If you talk to the girl, the worst case senario is that you walk away empty handed, no phone number, no date. If you don't go up to the girl, you're walking straight into that worst case senario without even doing anything!"
Whenever I see a girl I want to approach, if I ever feel anxious, I repeat these words in my head.
If you see a girl smiling at you, or better yet staring at you, it should be a no-brainer. Chances are she already kind of likes you, so it's unlikely you'll say anything to change her mind. So just go up to her, and make conversation. Observe the situation you're in, and play off it. Just have fun, that's the key, don't think of it as a stressful situation!
 

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Does it matter what type of eye contact she gives you? like today i was at this college and this bad chick was walking with her friend and she gave me eye contact but it was the type of eye contact that seemed sorta mixed... like approach me/regulary eye contact that you would give anyone..

and who are these chicks who smile, i never in my life got a smile...eye contact yes, staring yes...no smiles though

and why is it dumb to fake disintrest in her? wont she just get an ego boost if you try and be all interested in her?
 
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