Girl keeps having best time with me -- how to use this to my advantage?

[Elf2]

I met this girl over the summer and we kind of had feelings for each other but then I went off to college so that didn't work out. But I'm home now.

Thing is shes kinda still taking to her ex-bf but I don't think its anything serious and if it is it doesn't matter cause I can change that.

She has the absolute best time with me and I know she does. I was thinking about using this to my advantage by talking to her and telling her that I don't want to see her anymore unless she stops talking to him. This may lead to us hooking up. Good idea? Or what

 

[The Forms]

So you aren't interested in seriously dating this girl, right? All you're looking to do is hook up?

Why does it even matter if she still talks to her ex? It's not like you're looking for a relationship, you're just looking for a little action.

Telling her not to see her ex anymore comes off as unconfident and needy. Also, giving a person an ultimatum never really works out positively. She'll likely see this as you trying to tell her what to do because you're scared of her ex. That doesn't sound very DJ, does it?

 

[Elf2]

No, it doesn't. Perhaps I explained it wrong.

The ex I think isn't too important, they aren't "together" right now. But they do occasionally go out to dinner and hang out. The ex bf is much much younger than me. I guess I will just try to distance her from him and try to hang out with her more often then he.

And also, I have yet to hang out with her alone. It has always been a party or something. Should I drop a hint to hanging out alone? Will she get the hint?

 

[ZaReK]

No, it doesn't. Perhaps I explained it wrong.

The ex I think isn't too important, they aren't "together" right now. But they do occasionally go out to dinner and hang out. The ex bf is much much younger than me. I guess I will just try to distance her from him and try to hang out with her more often then he.

And also, I have yet to hang out with her alone. It has always been a party or something. Should I drop a hint to hanging out alone? Will she get the hint?

From what I just read, you still have the mentality that he's a threat for you and that you need to eliminate him. How about just not giving a **** about him?

Drop a hint? How about you tell her you want to **** her? Sounds much better to my ears. Don't play their games and they won't play it. If she get all scared, I wouldn't be interested in dating a chicks that can't handle me being direct towards her.

 

[The Forms]

The next step is to isolate her. She likes talking to you, she's comfortable around you, so now you need to get her alone.

This is NOT something you hint about. Since the two of you alone is the obvious next step, she's waiting for you to bring it up. If you kind of sniff around the issue but don't actually ask her to spend time alone with you, she'll think you're a chump. But honestly, if she's digging you AT ALL this is a really easy step. You get her alone and show her a good time and he's as good as gone. You don't have to say a word about him.

Asking her to quit talking to him when you haven't even spent one evening alone with her is REALLY putting the cart before the horse.