"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl just dropped off the face of the earth

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Once upon a time....no.......So there is this girl I know.......no, that's not what I meant.
Been friends with a former coworker of mine for a couple of years. Started off pretty good back in the day but somehow it didn't happen. No big deal. We've been keeping contact and been hanging out from time to time. She's always been good fun and easy to be around. No drama, no games. The last 2 years she's been living a couple of hundred miles away for work but recently she came back. Or at least a lot closer. Since we've been keeping contact I told her I was looking forward that's she'll be back and we should hang out again. She started a new job and has been emailing and texting frequently. We also talked on the phone a couple of times. She seemed to enjoy it and agreed to and was looking forward to hanging out again. Then I asked her out for the weekend and she declined with some work/busy BS. Week later I asked her out again - declined again with some friend's birthday BS and told me raincheck.

Haven't heard from her since 6 weeks and haven't been trying to contact her either. New dik, no interest or just some crazy chick stuff. Whatever. (Been jumping up and down the walls for a short period but that's a different story)

Question is: When she calls, because she eventually will with the holidays coming up, what to do?
Ignore, be indifferent or tell her off? Basically I like(d) her a lot but this is some disrespectful stuff that I don't need in my life anymore. First agreeing and being all over it and then within a minute going cold and f'ing off without a word.

Or maybe I'm all wrong and won't hear from her ever again. That would be a first. I've said it before and I'll say it again "Boy, do I know how to pick 'em!"
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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G_Govan

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If it didn't happen back then why would it happen now? Most women don't like confrontation so they'd rather you take a hint than to outright reject you.

The hint is, she's not reciprocating your level of interest. Move on.
 

Çharismo

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Cut her out of your life and move on brah!:trouble:
 

nismo-4

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Just wish she catches ebola and move on.

Case closed. Get out of my court.
 

RangerMIke

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She blew you off twice when you tried to get together fo a date. Take the hint and move on. After the second time she turned you down you should have said if you change your mind give me a call. Then put her OUT of your mind.

If she comes back great... go out, otherwise move on... find another girl.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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