Girl just broke up with me

[LaDanian Tomlinson]

So I've been dating this girl for two months. I'm 20 shes 17. We've hooked up and had sex a good amount and we really liked each other. However she never wanted to be boyfirend girlfriend because she "didn't like labels." So I took her to prom last saturday against my will. During the after party, she drinks like two shots and starts to pass out on a chair. Her friends tell me to move her to the couch. I try moving her and she says "go away". So I leave her alone. This girl was on her period and when shes a superlightweight so when she drinks she passes out after like two shots. She also gets way cranky and mean. So I leave her alone then after partying til 5 am i go upstairs to pass out in the room she is sleeping in. Now I didn't know this at the time but we were at a place with the parents there and they didn't want guys and girls staying in the same room. So this guy stops me and won't let me in. We get into an argument and I just think he's not letting me because he thinks I'm going to rape her or something because she's passed out. I tell him "we've slept in the same bed before." Then her bestfriend and the guy go in there to ask her if she wants me to sleep in there and she says no because she wanted to be left alone. Then I go and talk to my girl whos sleeping and convince her to let me sleep there.

So I was kinda pissed because she was kinda rude towards the end of the night and I was drunk and wanted to talk about our relationship.
Me: "you never want to talk about our problems you just want to hold it in"
then she explodes on me saying a bunch of **** i don't even remember"
Me: "wow thats the first time I heard you express yourself"
then she gets all quiet and I get pissed off because she won't talk to me anymore and so I leave the whole house.

So then Monday I text her saying we need to talk. Then she replies with "i think we both owe each other an apology." me "i agree but i think we need to talk and straighten **** out." her "k tomoro"

So then last night i text her saying lets talk. Then she replies with "i just want to be friends." im like why. she "because you called my best friend a ***** (cuz she called me an ******* out of the blue) and you were telling everyone we slept together (i only told that one kid by the door) and im not going to keep explaining myself so after all that i only see us as friends." So then I call her immediately and her stupid ***** bestfriend picks up and won't let me talk to her and hangs up on me. Then I text my girl later that night saying to listen to my side of the story first adn that if after talking you just want to be friends fine. then she doesn't reply.

So pretty much she was saying on Monday that ya we just both owe each other an apology. Then after her stupid ***** bestfriend brainwashed the **** out of her, she decides to say that we can only be friends. It's so stupid because we really like each other and have good chemistry and she wants to throw it all away after some stupid drunken prom night. So bottomline how can I get this girl back? I don't want to keep harrassing her to try to talk to me about it. But I really do want her back. How would I go about doing this????? Please somebody help a brother out.

 

[romangod]

So bottomline how can I get this girl back? I don't want to keep harrassing her to try to talk to me about it. But I really do want her back. How would I go about doing this????? Please somebody help a brother out.

Okay, here's the secret. Are you listening?????
















Totally ignore her. None of this :flowers: or this


:nono: :nono: :nono:




Cheers!

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

How to get her back ?

First of all , you never had her. You should be able to see when a girls really likes you and when the girl just uses you for sex or emotional tampoon or whatever.

You should have known whats the relationship between you too and you shouldnt have expected more from this relationship.

My words might sound harsh to you but its the truth.

Your problem is that you don't have abundance mentality. If you had it , you wouldnt take her sh1t in the first place. And you wouldnt give a fvck about getting her back.

I say fvck that little b1tch. Go out and become a man. Approach , approach , burn the field. Then youll know what the fvck im talking about and what should you do. Getting her back its not an option . And believe me , you would suffer with her much more.

 

[f283000]

It's so stupid because we really like each other and have good chemistry and she wants to throw it all away after some stupid drunken prom night. So bottomline how can I get this girl back? I don't want to keep harrassing her to try to talk to me about it. But I really do want her back. How would I go about doing this????? Please somebody help a brother out.

I really doubt if she "really liked you" she would pull the friend card on you after just 1 bad night or her friend having a chat w her.

 

[3countriesPlan]

Cut her loose man shes trash.

 

[LaDanian Tomlinson]

How to get her back ?

First of all , you never had her. You should be able to see when a girls really likes you and when the girl just uses you for sex or emotional tampoon or whatever.

You should have known whats the relationship between you too and you shouldnt have expected more from this relationship.

My words might sound harsh to you but its the truth.

Your problem is that you don't have abundance mentality. If you had it , you wouldnt take her sh1t in the first place. And you wouldnt give a fvck about getting her back.

I say fvck that little b1tch. Go out and become a man. Approach , approach , burn the field. Then youll know what the fvck im talking about and what should you do. Getting her back its not an option . And believe me , you would suffer with her much more.

actually it was like we were going out she just didn't want to label it yet. and no she didn't use me for sex or an emotional tampon. **** was going really well and im sure we would have changed the label with a couple weeks. so that part of it doesn't matter.

i didnt really take her ****. when she sayd go away i was like fine sit there on the lawn chair and be passed out. she was just pmsing and she gets weird when shes drunk

 

[LaDanian Tomlinson]

Cut her loose man shes trash.

na shes not trash. like i said she was pmsing and she gets really weird when she drinks. she liked me a lot and i liked her. there really was never any problems and then when this **** happened she all of a sudden is over it. i really don't get it.

anyone else have any ideas. don't say **** like shes trash and that we were never together.

 

[Daddy The Pimp]

Man , on your relationship , she is setting the rules. She is deciding whether youll be girlfriend/boyfriend or just friends or whatever. Thats a bad sign.

YOU'RE THE FVCKING MAN.
You should take the actions and decisions.

But in your relationship its the other way. Thats why im telling you to forget about this and start the journey on becoming a MEN.

Or youll always be somebodys b1tch.

 

[LaDanian Tomlinson]

can someone explain why she would say "i think we both owe each other an apology" on monday and make it seem like it was all good and then the next day after her friend brainwashes the **** out of her she totally changes her mind and says i just want to be friends. this is what makes me think theres still a chance with her.

 

[alwaysimproving7]

good she wasn't worth it. Now go out and meet other ladies.

 

[Igetit!]

So I've been dating this girl for two months. I'm 20 shes 17. We've hooked up and had sex a good amount and we really liked each other. However she never wanted to be boyfirend girlfriend because she "didn't like labels."

She doesn't like labels,huh? For some reason,something feels funny about this. My guess is that you were more into her than she was into you,that you probably were the one to bring up the boyfriend/girlfriend relationship talk. I also sensed a hint of neediness from you. This is probably the reason she didn't want to commit to being in a relationship.

So I was kinda pissed because she was kinda rude towards the end of the night and I was drunk and wanted to talk about our relationship.
Me: "you never want to talk about our problems you just want to hold it in"
then she explodes on me saying a bunch of **** i don't even remember"
Me: "wow thats the first time I heard you express yourself"
then she gets all quiet and I get pissed off because she won't talk to me anymore and so I leave the whole house.

So then Monday I text her saying we need to talk.

I think I'm starting to get a clearer picture of what went down here. One thing that's GLARINGLY CLEAR is that it seems you two had reversed roles. You kept saying to her over and over,"We need to talk",or "We need to talk about the relationship". That's what women do man. Women are the ones who are WELL-KNOWN for throwing out that line. Also,you talked to her about her expressing her feelings. Yep,classic role reversal.

So then last night i text her saying lets talk. Then she replies with "i just want to be friends." im like why. she "because you called my best friend a ***** (cuz she called me an ******* out of the blue) and you were telling everyone we slept together (i only told that one kid by the door) and im not going to keep explaining myself so after all that i only see us as friends."

Her reasons are bogus. I believe the real reason is that she just wasn't attracted to you anymore,but she put the reason off on to you to make it your fault....and it was your fault,but it wasn't the name calling though. It was you not being a man in the relationship. Believe me,if she were REALLY ATTRACTED to you,she'd just excuse away you calling her friend names.

It's so stupid because we really like each other and have good chemistry and she wants to throw it all away after some stupid drunken prom night.

IT WASN'T THE PROM NIGHT DUDE. It was a lack of attraction on her part the did the relationship in. The prom night was just a way of her deflecting responsibility for the break up. This way,if anybody asks what happened with you two,the reason for the breakup can fall on you. You don't think that if someone asks her why you two are no longer together she's going to say because she no longer likes you,do you?

What happened is simple. You weren't being a man in the relationship. In the beginning she may have felt you were,but as time went on,when she realized that "she" was in the leadership role,that's when everything started to go downhill. You calling her friend a name only gave her on out while making you look like the bad guy.

 

[LaDanian Tomlinson]

i was never needy in this relationship. she was more attracted to me than i was to her. i was in the leadership role. trust me i know how to be a man. but when you've been dating a girl for a while and you both like each other and shes never asks you to be her bf it makes you just want to ask her. trust me i've read about how the girl is supposed to ask. but after over a month and she hasnt brought it up, what else am i supposed to do.

 

[BrAzILiaNpLaYaE]

I doubt he's going to listen to you guys since you guys are not telling him what he wants to hear. I've been there, came to this forum and asked for advice. They told me she wasn't worth and to next her. Since that wasn't what I wanted to hear and only thought of getting the girl back, I went and chased her and begged her to get back with me. It was the wrong thing to do but maybe If I ignored her and that made her comeback to me I would've been stuck with the wrong girl that wasnt worth anything. I'm glad she's gone. Sooo if you chase her goo chasee her it won't work =p. By begging her all that's gonna happen is she's gonna loose the rest of the respect(if any) she had for you.

Good luck let it us know what happens.

just my 002.

 

[pua1989]

if you really want to get her back youll cut all contact and shell start to freak out when she realizes you arent gonna be hittin her up

 

[pua1989]

btw GO CHARGERS

 

[Eaglecreek]

i was never needy in this relationship. she was more attracted to me than i was to her. i was in the leadership role.

you clearly were more attracted else you wouldnt want her back, and you weren't the leader consindering you're chasing that AW right now.... You didn't have a relationship and you never will have it with her. Deal with it...

Stop contacting her she's trash.

Now you don't wanna listen to our advice and we're @ssholes etc etc, but in a few months you'll come crawling back here saying we were right.

Grab your balls, be a man and for god sake save some dignity,
leave the b!tch alone

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

If you were waiting for her to ask you to be bf/gf, you already failed. Her fantasy of being with an older man probably just wore off. You were stuck in an unfortunate situation, but the drama of it all did you in. Wanting to exclusively date a 17 year old is a bad idea in general, but you're 20 so you should know better. 17 year old girls are not relationship material; they're too immature as I'm sure you've experienced by now. You invested too much in this and took it too seriously. You were also afraid to say no to going to prom with her, so you went even though you didn't want to. Does that sound like a man in a position of control?

 

[MascaraSnake]

I'd send a text or e-mail telling her you're bothered by her behavior but the ball is in her court to intiate the talk (I'd expect her not to contact you). Meanwhile, act like you're single and spin plates again. Doesn't sound like you two were ever officially going out, anyway.

 

[The_411]

LaDanian is your knee healed up? I need to know if the Chargers in the Super Bowl is a good value bet

 

[LaDanian Tomlinson]

FOLLOW UP: So thanks for the comments and ya you guys are right. You really can't do anything after she says she wants to be friends. I made the mistake of trying to get her to give it one more chance through texts but she of course did not want to and just made it clear that she only wants to be friends. Once again, chicks are emotional thinkers and can not be convinced through logic. So now we're friends and at least I know her friends and maybe can get with them.

This was my first relationship so it was kind of hard getting over her. But now I'm moving on to other women. I made out with a 7.5 last saturday and shes way into me now so I'm pretty stoked. I feel much better after doing that. The only way to counter your heart getting broken is to get out there and find another hot chick. So moral of the story, if the chick says she just wants to be friends, be friends with her and go mob other *****es.

PS: Yes my knee is awesome and I'm healthier than ever. I'm ready to split carries with Sproles and be the best running back tandom in the league. I also talked to Merriman recently and he says hes better than ever and hungrier than ever. To the rest of the league: Look out because we are the team to beat.