Girl isnt making time for me

[Scars]

Well I like this girl, and she likes me. And we're pretty much on the edge of dating (bf-gf exclusive) but it seems like we never really spend that much time together. She's pretty busy and so am I, but lately I haven't been because I got my car wrecked and I lost my job. So I'm in the process of getting my old job back (one I can walk to from my house) and start saving up for a new car. She lives right down the street from me.. there's seriously no excuse why we hardly see each other. She seems to always be busy with friends and family. She's always telling me she misses me, and she's deff. interested. But I still hardly see her. I got to see her on the 4th of July, but that was with a crowd of people.. and not really too much one-on-one time. I got the k-close, of course. But I still want to see her more. We had plans to hang today, and she bailed. Because her family had "errands to run, and wouldn't be back until later tonight", so I'm pretty bummed. After she texted me that I said "Lame." and then she apologized, and I told her it wasnt her fault but she was like "I know.. but still.." and I haven't written her back. The way I see it, I'm not going to reward her with my time if she can't give me hers. She'll probably text me later asking if I hate her or something, or things might be akward for a few days. But I can't help it, I don't even really feel like talking to her, cause I'm kind of pissed off.

Me and her almost dated before, but we kidna grew apart. Simply because I never got to see her.. and there was other tail to be chased. Then we started talking again, and she kept telling me she didnt want that to happen again.. but now it feels like it is. Same cycle, once again. It kinda sucks. I mean I'm not OII over this girl, but she is deffinately the first in my stack, simply because she qualifies in everything. She's pretty, smart, has all the same interests as me, she's not a slut.. she's actually very lady like, and just an interesting person over all.. she not only stimulates my heart and body, but my mind too. She's more of a prize than most girls, and I think that's why this bugs me so much. What should I do?

 

[Road Demon]

You need to Relax. Be less intense. You're not being a challenge; you are coming off as a Beta male by being needy. If she can't meet up for legimate family concern, you don't fret, say OK and make other plans.

I understand you are a bit down due to the job situation. Try to focus on you friends and hobbies, not this girl.

Just back off and be a challenge. Seem busy to her, don't be to available. Don't intiate all the calls and text messages, but feel free to respond to hers. Be a little scarce and her interest level will go up.

Question on how can you be bf/gf if you have only k-closed? You need to being having sex with the girl for several weeks to months before even thinking about you choosing her to be your 'girlfriend'; she is the one who brings up the talk being exclusive.

 

[Scars]

She always inititiates the calls and texts. She basically knows I can pretty much have any girl I want. She knows my history as a player, but I told her I was trying to change "for the better". I have a slowed down my lifestyle a lot.. partly because of her, but also partly due to the recent events. I've had a lot of bad things just happening, and it's just stock piling lately. Like I said, she is always telling me how much she misses me. The ball is deffinately in my court. She feels bad when she can't see me.. but it still doesn't change the fact we never see each other. I guess it's more of a rant than anything. I'm afraid I'm going to get bored of her again, because thats what happened last time. And she said she was so "so hurt" when I stopped talking to her.. but honestly, it was her own damn fault. Not mine. I haven't really showed any negative emotion towards this. All I said was "Lame." and "it's not your fault".. if she texts me later, I'm just going to tell her I'm busy doing something else.

 

[WC2]

She may know you can have any girl you want, but the question is does she want you? I don't think she does.. at the moment at least.

You said you've been seeing her for awhile, but nothing has really happened. Usually women who are very attracted to men will initiate the question earlier than later. If she knows that you are a prized product, then she would have already attempted to lock you down.

I agree with the 2nd poster that you are a little intense and may have a slight one-itis for this girl. In fact, I KNOW you do because any guy who writes so discretely about another female on her almost always does and there is no shame in that. In fact if you really want to go back 900 some posts 3 years ago, you can see my first post was a oneitis!

Now that you're down in the dumps, your attraction to her is just stronger because you have NOTHING else to do. Understand that these thoughts are just infatuations that you create in your head. It's not the truth. When you first met this girl I doubt that you were mentally and physically overwhelmed by her. But give your mind a few weeks to infatuate and you better bet that you'll be on your knees.

You're young and I fell into this trap exactly at 18 also.

My intention isn't for you to be totally 'blown' about this, but to learn early that attraction doesn't always go both ways to the same degree.

It sounds like she likes you a bit, but you haven't really shown her that your the kind of material that she wants in her life just yet.

Focus on your job, hobbies, and dreams. Get into a decent college and worry about your future. You'll find that by some odd way when you start focusing less on her and more on you, she'll find her way back into your life. And if not, well **** you still did a hell of a lot to improve yourself for the next broad who comes along!

So in short, relax with this chick.

As for the text messages, learn this lesson and learn it now :

NEVER and I say NEVER

Show anger over the fact that a woman will not hang out with you. It's a lose lose situation. Even if you do get angry, she still won't hang out with you. And just like you said, it makes things AWKWARD for a little while.

You simply could have said "Oh no problem, maybe I'll get to make fun of ya another day." and boom. Done. You feel better about yourself and chances are she's wondering "wow, he wasn't pissed! I wonder what better things he has to do. Wow, actually maybe I'll hang out with him tomorrow just to show him that i'm better than anything else he's doing."

A little over exaggerated, but you get the point. Women DO think this way a lot of the time.

good luck and learn early! you'll be thanking me when you are going through women like bowling pins in college.

 

[Jitterbug]

She lives right down the street from me.. there's seriously no excuse why we hardly see each other. She seems to always be busy with friends and family. She's always telling me she misses me, and she's deff. interested. But I still hardly see her.

Here's the #1 tip from the SoSuave DJ newsletter I got today:

1) Always judge a woman by the way SHE ACTS... and not by what she
tells you. If she tells you that she loves you, but doesn't respond
to the way you touch her. If she tells you that she likes you, but
acts differently. Don't waste your time. Go by how she acts. You
have eyes. You are NOT STUPID! You KNOW when a woman's actions do
not match up with her words.

I dated one like this. Not down the street, but only 10 mins away. I gave her some time and it was still the same, so I ended it with her. She was my top plate at the time too, but I knew I could find one just as good or better.

People make time for their top priorities. Regardless of what she tells you, her actions show that you're way down the list, at best behind her friends & family (unless there are others in the picture that she hasn't told you about).