"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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girl is very confusing...

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well thee is a girl who is now mad at moe for \\\\\\\"ignoreing her\\\\\\\" today at the first day of school....i dont understand because:
1.she has boyfriend
2.everysingle time she saw me i said hi back or w/e..

but she is mad at me for ignoring her its like shes stupid and doesnt understand that when shes with her boyfriend 24/7 i cant stand there and have 5 hour converstaions with her...

my questio is

how do i not \\\\\\\"ignore her\\\\\\\" without getting too anoying...because i dont want to pull her away from her bf just because she says hi..but if i dont sit there and talk she gets mad at moe for ignoring her

ill go into more detail, she was on siitting with her boyfriend at lunch at the outside and she says hi and i wave and shes like why are you ignoring me and her face was turning red and she was like kept going on..she used to ride my buss i last year and it was prety much the funnest thing ever it was a blast everyday..se talk me almost every day on summer and i was anxoius to see her at schools starts and they split the buss ride in half sepretaeing us making both buss rides boring and now it pretty much sucks and when we talk it just isnt the same anymore..that why i dont treat her the same because what she tend to do is give me her full attention at one minute and just leave me standing there as she goes to another person without even saying goodbye or anything..it was differnt last year i guess because she couldnt get enoygh of me and whenever i showed up anywhere she wouldnt stop bothering me and wherever i was she could never keep her eyes of me but then again tahst before her bf came to school

im pretty sure i should just give up on her she expects me to give her my attention when she isnt even giving me hers and i think that realy quite ridicoulus..

an to make this even more complictaed everytime i walk by her she has to acknlodge me and if i dont say anything back i can tell shes getting mad...

another thing: she has a volleyball game and she wants me to go but in all honesty i dont want to go..and i promised her i would but how do i tell her withour hurting her feeling im not going>?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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i'm confused, do you not have feelings for this girl and just want to be friends? If not.....then it seems like shes not very satisfied with her boyfriend, either that or shes a "attention wh*re" how does she act with other guys? ... besides her boyfriend.
 

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i dont knwo what i want with her thats the thing...and she acts kind of like happy all the time and **** and very impulive as in physical. she considers us good friends bc we talk like everyday at least and every time i walk by she always metion but read above the whole thing to understand little parts of it will get you nowhere.

i think shes kind oif an attention ***** but idk i relay havnt thought about it
 

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GaryUranga said:
stop doing things for her, like giving her attention just cause she wants it or going to voleyball games you dont wanna go to, dont give in.
i never do anything for her

the only things i do for her is say hi when she says hi...listen to her talk sometimes we talk alot (way too much) on msn..and borrow hair products from her...

she only wants me to go because i promised id go to the last game when she called me but i was an idiot and i missed her call all 5 times she called before the game (which she had to do at a friends house which makes it even harder) and the next day i ask why she didnt call and her face started turning red and she started doing this like whining thing..so i promised id go to her next game


do u think if i start to ignore her even more she will start to value our friendship like she used to?
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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cr2 said:
i dont knwo what i want with her thats the thing...
Well do you want to be with her in a LTR? Do you just want to have sex with her? Or is she just a cool chick to talk to and you just want to be friends?

You need to figure this out, and if you want to be in a LTR then go for it, break her up with her b/f. If you just want to have sex with her, invite her to a party without her b/f and get her drunk, and if you want to be "just friends" continue what your doing.


cr2 said:
do u think if i start to ignore her even more she will start to value our friendship like she used to?
Either that will happen, or you'll just stop being friends completely.
 

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idk for now jst good friend but in future mabye relationship

idk if i would consider her attention ***** but the thing is when i ignore her she gets realy pissed and when she gets me over and speaks to me and then like moves on to someone else right in middle of converstaion i get pissed but i dont act like a whiney ***** like her...but i have thought about it and whebever i am in the middle of converstaion with her i can recall about 4 times this week i was talking too her and blew her off in the middle as well..more times then she has

im no expert in women but i just want it to be like it was last year if u read my post above :/
 

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All i can see is you have no idea waht you want from her, if you really want to know if shes into you, break off contact bro, see how she responds. But if you just want to be a guy friend then keep going as is. (it's always good to have some friends that are girls, they can lead to other girls)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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today i sawe her at school she yelled hi and i waved then as i was walking away she was just staring at me silently and just left after i left..i sense pissyness

bump
 

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Why do you spend so much time in your head worrying about what she says or thinks. Let her qualify yourself to you, not the other way around.
 
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