Girl is very attached to ex boyfriend. How do I win?

[gimmeyofonenumba]

We've been dating for a few mos, but not exclusive. She broke up with her ex bf of 4 yrs, over 1 yr ago. She says it was for a few reasons, bad sex was the biggest(she says im the only guy to ever give her an orgasm) Here's the problem, her ex is moving back to her town in a few weeks. In the begining She'd always tell me stories of herself with her ex as well. Now she just refers to him as her friend. The guy will do anything for her, still buys her things, they were recently at a bday party together, etc. Recently, its been bothering me quite abit to the point where im wanting to just tell her to get back with the guy. How can i win in this situation?

 

[sinnerman]

you said you aren't exclusive..so why bother ? also as long as an ex is lurking in the background dont get serious with her. will just lead to more headaches. in the meantime make sure the time she spends with you is the best but then disappear for a while give her the chance to miss you.

 

[leighaxox]

Honestly, I don't think you can win if she still continues to see him. Obviously there are feelings there, and she's not willing to let them go. If she were really into you, he wouldn't even be in the picture. Sorry

 

[loveshogun]

How can i win in this situation?

Get out of it?

Seriously. There are at least 5 major things wrong here. Even 1 major thing is cause for concern. 5 major problems is cause for leaving.

Spend your time doing things you love and growing as a person, not being 2nd best to someone who wasn't good enough in the first place.

 

[st_99]

(she says im the only guy to ever give her an orgasm)

if i had a quarter for everytime i've heard that... If that were true I can gaurantee you
she would have no feelings whatsoever for the other guy. She is bullshting you.

 

[pipe007]

exactly. women learn at an early age (thanks to cosmo magasines) what to say to her guy to make him feel special, empowered, and how to stroke his ego.

we like to hear that we are the only ones, the one who has ever made her feel this way, the only one who can make her orgasm.

B.S indeed. I've told my current gf that i have special feelings for her which i have never shared with no other girl. of course, I'm lying. as I have many many times been in love with past LTR.

and she talks and sees ex boyfriend? boy you are in for a lot of trouble!
NEVER be in a relationship with a girl who has baggage, or has the ex in the picture. You are only hurting yourself, she could care less what you feel about the situation. it's a win win for her, has both your attention and her exes.

 

[Pardner]

You can't. She is with him. She won't let him go. Let her go. Find someone new.

 

[nismo-4]

Make her more into you than him. He's the better man right now.

Judge nismo sees the fact that you're saying this proves that you're guilty of neediness and lack of options. Don't you realize that she's the big winner here, and that you will never be? She's also saying that you make her feel better than any other man has done. Total bullsh*t. She said that to boost your ego and keep you around. Wake your ass up.

Anyway, you will be fined 1 stressed mind, a possible beating, and a beating of your meat. You will also be flown to Loser, South Dakota.

Case closed. Spin more plates.