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[decentguy]

I set up a first date with a cool, sophisticated and intelligent girl who's a friend of a friend. We agreed to meet at 8:30 p.m. at a local coffee shop. I have her phone number but she doesn't have mine. At 8:40 p.m. there's no sign of her so I call and she's apologizing profusely about being late and how she wanted to call me but didn't have my phone number. She tells me she'll be there in 10 minutes.

She shows up at 8:50 and apologizes again. I playfully but firmly bust her on being late. She's a bit of an introvert but, overall, the conversation went pretty well. At the end of the date, she again apologizes and tells me that she's always late and that she usually calls if she's going to be late. I ask her why and she sarcastically says "it must be because I'm soooo good at managing my time". My friend has confirmed this about her, that she is indeed always late, it's how she is and has always been.

I'm going to ask her out on a 2nd date (bowling) but I can not accept any of this being late b.s. How do I let her know that it's unacceptable in a playful way?

I was thinking something along the lines of "okay, but there's a condition for this date: none of this being late business. If you're late, you have to pay for the date."

Any suggestions? This lack of punctuality seems like a red flag, am I overanalyzing?

 

[guywhoneedshelp]

Just don't act affected by her being late all the time. "Nothing is a big deal" - remember that. Be perceived as a guy who is "cool" and don't even bother complaining about things like this.

 

[decentguy]

Isn't that the most AFC thing I could possibly do?

 

[Desert Fox]

Isn't that the most AFC thing I could possibly do?

no you noob. She apologized to you and kept her word the second time she said she was gonna be there in 10 minutes. She also apologized again.

Just playfully say some crap like "hey i'll let it slide this time, but if it happens again i'm gonna have to spank u"

say it playfully so you don't come off as a dumbass or hardass.

If the girl just left you hanging for 2 days and suddenly called u to be like "oh hey i need this, and btw my bad for not claling u that i wasn't gonna be there and making u wait a whole night." in that case u dump that b1tch

see that difference? good

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Don't say anything dude. She was late and didn't have your number. She apologized repeatedly and let you know that she's usually always late. With that in mind you can do two things:

1) Tell her the date is 20 minutes earlier than you really want, so that way she's "on time"

2) realize that this is just part of who she is.... if she's 5-10 minutes late, it shouldn't be a big deal. However if she's 20-30 minutes late constantly you'll probably want to weigh that against her other attributes.

If you enjoy everything about her except her late-ness.... then you should continue getting to know her. However if she's kinda lame and late..... then next her.

Whatever you do, don't call her out on being late at this point, you'll look like a controlling, macho dork.



PIMP

 

[slickaz]

and PLEase dont use "paying for the date" as the consequense, itll look like ur a tight a55.

tell her she should set the date on the third date if she is late on the second date.
That way you will set your schedule so you wont have to wait.

if she is on time, compliment her for it.

 

[Jitterbug]

Tell us what you would do if a male friend of yours is late (20-30mins) to something you have scheduled to do together.

 

[MightyMate]

Id come late this time.

 

[imaginemypotential]

I would just tell 20 min earlier before you really get there, simple