"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Girl is testing me.. How to handle it.

sandinista

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OK. I've been kinda doing this girl for a few weeks now. It has been fun so far & things have been going great.


Now though... She gave me "what is our relationship?" talk.. & i told her that i like her, but i DON'T want a relationship. She was unhappy by this response, but she said she still wanted to see me, so i thought we were cool & everything could carry on as it has been.

BUT, the last few times i've seen her, she's been playin' these stupid female games. For example, I was at a house party & she was being VERY touchy feely with some guy right in front of me. I knew what she was up to, & didn't react & carried on as normal.

But she keeps doin these kind of things, like telling me some guy tried to kiss her & someone asked for her phone number & stuff like that.

Because i act non-chalant towards these things, it either makes me look like a wuss who can't stand up for himself, or someone who doesn't give a crap about her. Neither one is a good image to have.

So how do i handle this situation?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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sav

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what exactly is it that you want from her?

a relationship? no...
good sex? seems you already have that...

whats the problem? you dont like her being with other guys, but you ARENT in a relationship... so dont get possessive, it was your choice..


find out what you want and then maybe we can be of bigger help in helping you acheive your objective..
 

Interceptor

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So how do i handle this situation?
What "situation"? WTF are you talking about?
You just wanted to bang her and that's it. She wants more than that, and you don't.
She is trying to see if you react jealously, and get possessive. If you do, then you're a hypocrite, if you don't then what's the problem?
You reap what you sow, right?
You think everything is going to work out perfectly for you all the time?
You think you can be selfish and have people bend to your will and your desires only?
Get real, kid. This is part of the DJ territory. Why are you complaining?
Get ready for her to start looking for a boyfriend while you start chasing after her p****.
She's going to drop you any day now.
 

Gangster Of Love

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sav,

You are a pimp daddy! Totally agree. She is doing that just to get herself some validation and try to get you to react. Who cares. I would make fun of her for it, but don't do it if it actually pi$ses you off, becaue you'll come off as an a$s clown.

Why are you worrying, specially if she's still sleeping with you? Now, if she stops putting out, then, YOU DO NOTHING. She would have all the rights to stop putting out with you and start putting out for a guy who she sees a potential relationship with.
 
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