Girl is quiet in bed, what to do?

[Jackalan]

been sleeping with this girl for a while and she tells me tonight that i was her first, so that kind of explained why she was so quite maybe..

but how do i get her to give me more feedback? i ask if it feels good, she just nods her head.

her only signs im going on is heavier breathing and some thrusting of the hips,

but wtf no moans groans? she is soaking wet, im eating her out - and still no sounds??

do i need to build more comfort or soemthing?

cheers

 

[xdreamz]

no, she's just a bore in bed.

 

[drak_ool]

been sleeping with this girl for a while and she tells me tonight that i was her first,

Wait... you were her first and you didn't even notice? sounds fishy. I'm not saying they bleed all the time, but in general they do. Also, girls usually make a big deal about their V-card and I can hardly see how she'll let somebody taking it from her w/out even mentionning it...

Just tell her what your expectations are in bed. don't make it a lecture by going into specific details at first, just keep it general and in a light tone. Then, next time you hit it when she makes some noise or takes some initiative reward her. Also talk dirty to her and force her to answer you. She ll feel awkward at first, so you have to act really natural in order to difuse the tension. But then she'll get into it more and more. Takes some patience, you just gotta teach her.

Also how long have you two been banging/how many times? "shy" girls get more wild as they get more comfortable with you.

 

[Vice]

Dude, why does she need to make noise? Alot of women don't make noises when they're having sex.

Real life isn't like a porno, where the sounds the girl is making is actually a recording of a fat woman moaning and screaming.

Just another example of porn conditioning our society.

 

[dalynxx]

Dude, some women don't make sounds until they orgasm, they just breathe heavily. Every one is different.....

 

[The Piano Master]

Sounds like you guys don't know how to make a girl cream.

 

[xdreamz]

if she's a virgin it's easier to make her cream...

 

[Leporello]

If she's thrusting her hips that's a good sign.

 

[thedude4242]

talk a little dirty to her that can really help. dont do too much unless she starts doing a lot back. there are people who can talk dirty a whole bunch but they are not effective because you have the say the right stuff. compliment her in a sexual way.

 

[f283000]

Dude, why does she need to make noise? Alot of women don't make noises when they're having sex.

Real life isn't like a porno, where the sounds the girl is making is actually a recording of a fat woman moaning and screaming.

Just another example of porn conditioning our society.

This! Millions of guys out there wish they had a nice warm p___ to go to and you come here and complain about her not making any noise?? wtf is wrong with you????

Just because she doesn't make noise doesn't mean she isn't enjoying it and even if she weren't who cares! it's about you getting some and getting some satisfaction. Forget what she thinks concentrate on enjoying the moment. This ain't your wife here this is some random ho that is disposable and you won't be coming home to every night.

 

[horaholic]

I agree with the OP. I've only had one girl like this, and it was only for one weekend, but it was weird. It was still sex, but it made me uncomfortable. i felt like i was doing a bad job or something. I believe its a girls JOB to let the man know he's doing alright. Its like she's taking, but not giving. Sex is about ALL the senses, and if she's too quiet, she's not giving it her all. Thats selfish, in my book. I dont know what to tell you in ways to get her to be more vocal, except talk to her about it. Thats what i did with my weekend fling that was quiet. She assured me she was enjoying it, and I made her cvm, when most guys dont, but it was awkward for me, so I sympathize with the OP. I think she's just a dead fish, dont blame yourself.

 

[Jackalan]

cheers for advice, i will talk dirty to her during sex nxt time - get her to talk back

and why am i complaining she doesnt make noise? its like a girl sucking your **** and you dont tell her which bits feel good, you just lie there..? its bad for you and for her. you get bored, she doesnt know what to do to get you off.

and i appreciate shes not my wife, but i like what we have together.. she watches me kiss other girls at clubs, but still takes me home and cooks dinner/breakfast for me the nxt morning. treats me like a king, and i just wanna return the favour and make her cvm, but thats not too easy whn she gives noo feedback

and drak ool, ive banged her about 5-6 times, and had a few other just naked mucking around sessions. and ye its a bit weird she says now about being v. not what i wanted to hear from her anyway. but she was going on about no blood the first time which she thought was weird.. it still is possible she broke it earlier from something else eh? but i dont give a sh^t to be honest.

 

[SandHawk]

Lots of girls don't bleed the first time due to tampon usage. Tampons stretch it all a bit up, making first time sex more comfortable.

I do sympathize with the op, altho I've never experienced it really. I've fingered a girl who didn't respond vocally, eventho she really enjoyed it. And I know I'm good, I've had 4 different girls sperately from each other call me 'magic fingers' or similar.

A girl not moaning during sex is ****. It's all about the feedback she gives, and it really helps if she at least produces some noise. I don't want to hear porn moaning because that **** cracks me up.

Still, nothing beats a girl biting your neck and scratching your back/legs when you're banging her. The best sex for me always leaves me covered with hickeys and scratchmarks.

 

[Berlex]

she's quite what?