Girl is holding a grudge against me.

[perseverance]

Here me out guys. There is this new girl who started at work about two/three weeks ago, me and her got a long well enough.

Well last week about 7am, I am coming home from work on my lonesome and I see a hooded guy running towards me at a fast pace, he runs past and around the corner comes a hysterical girl screaming and shouting and pursuing this guy, it's the new girl from work. I don't know what is going on and by the time I realise she had her hang bag stolen, it's too late to do anything about it and tbh I am not really the type of person who is going to pursue a thieve who may or may not be concealing a weapon. I don't believe in being a "hero" just to impress anybody and I would rather not get stabbed, beaten or shot in the process if I can avoid it.

So the next day, I roll into work at 9am and she's talking to other people about her traumatic experience and how I didn't help her out, well over the last week I've gotten a lot of people asking me why I didn't do anything and earlier this afternoon this girl flat out told me that she wants nothing more to do with me, she won't under any circumstances speak to me at work and she doesn't want to be near me. In fact I think she wants to move departments over the incident.

I do feel for the girl, getting your hand bag stolen must be a traumatic experience, but I am being made to feel as though it is my fault and I have noticed a different attitude in my workplace in the aftermath of this incident.

Seriously this incident has just confirmed that women when they can want to be can be damn right ruthless, callous and manipulative. I've even had a few people slate me for standing by and not doing anything.

I'm glad I didn't help her now and I am just going to be thick skinned at work and not take any notice of the events that unfolded, but damn has this hurt my reputation at work.

 

[BigSmooth]

During the incident after the thief ran past you and the woman was near your area, what did you do? You told us you didn't pursue the thief but how did you react? Did you just walk away, try and comfort her, call the police, etc?

 

[perseverance]

During the incident after the thief ran past you and the woman was near your area, what did you do? You told us you didn't pursue the thief but how did you react? Did you just walk away, try and comfort her, call the police, etc?

I just walked off and caught the train home.

 

[BigSmooth]

I just walked off and caught the train home.

That's probably why. She probably toke your "there was nothing I can do so I'll just go home" with apathy and being a pr!ck.

I think if you chose a different course of action (not saying you should have ran after the thief) such as trying to calm her down or calling the cops or something things wouldn't have escalated to where they are now.


I would recommend trying to get her 1-on-1 and telling your side of the story. You'll probably have to wait a couple weeks before she calms down a bit enough to actually not avoid you every time she sees you.

 

[LIKEaBAWZ]

Hey man , sucks for u that u got dragged into that conflict by just being there .

You shouldn't give a **** what the other people at your work think about you now .
Those people weren't there to help her and if they we're there then they most probably wouldn't have helped her either .
Anyway you should try what BigSmooth said and try to talk with her when she calmed down .

good luck !

 

[perseverance]

I have to hold my hands up and say that I should have stopped and helped her out, comforted her, made sure she got home safely!

I did act cowardly I have to say and whilst I don't advocate being a 'White Knight', it wouldn't have hurt to have been unselfish and gone and made sure she was alright.

However it's done now, I didn't react, I didn't stick around to ensure she was alright and for sure I'm going to get criticism, but whatever, I'm just taking that on the chin and moving on.

 

[speed dawg]

If the shoe was on the other foot, she would have gotten the heck out of dodge, for sure. But there again, she is a woman, you're a man. But I see no reason for her to be mad at you about this, that's her being a b1tch in my opinion. I mean, if the guy was gone before you knew what was going on, that's it, there's nothing you could have done. It is what it is.

If you knew the chick, you probably could have acknowledged her in distress though, same thing you would have done for a buddy or something.