I've been talking to her on myspace for awhile, she just moved here and we talked for a bit. Online she seemed a little reluctant towards talking to me.. but as soon as I said hi to her one day, and she saw my face.. her attitude really changed. I found that kind of funny. I think she is interested, I've been playing it pretty good up until now. We were talking about music one day, and I told her to give me some song recommendations, she said she would give me the list tomorrow.. how should I go about this? We've never really had a *real* conversation, atleast not face to face.. but I say hi to her and stuff.. I want to take this opportunity and maybe start an actuall convo.. maybe initiate some kino.. do you think hugging would be a little awkard for that short of time knowing her? I really dont want to come off stalkerish.. i've actually been trying to lay low to avoid that.. but I dont want to seem like a bore/uninterested. there's also a good chance this will happen infront of my friends.. should i lead her away, so we can talk one on one or what? please help, thanks in advance.
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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Girl is going to give me list of songs tomorrow..
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That's the most idiotic thing I've read all day. I've already gave her some of my interests, now she is doing the same. And besides.. it's a way for her to approach and come to me, I don't really care about the songs.. it's just a open door so I can game her..
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I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
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you're in a very stupid situation if you ask me. list of music? please that's what you get from your friends. when you bmeet her be like, hah so this is what you like? let me show you what real music is. and go do something fun
We talk about music, but it's like all we talk about.. I want to talk about more. And I was thinking about being like 'Does this come with your number?' whenever I get it, and see if she'll write it down for me or something, then ask her out this weekend or next weekend.
And might I remind you all.. she is new.. I hardly know her.. the goal right now is to get to know her a little more so things arent as akward and she starts taking some of them sheilds down.. I don't wanna attack her head on.. ya know. lol
Sounds like your thinking good enough for yourself =P I like itNFC said:'Does this come with your number?
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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the more i think about your position, the dumber i think it is.
music isn't very high on the list of things i want to talk to a girl about. unless it's about hot girls on music videos. seriuosly, music is the kind of stuff that makes friends... platonic friends.
you could use your little number thing too if you wanted, but why not just go on a date on the spot and get her number at the end of the night/day/ whatever
music isn't very high on the list of things i want to talk to a girl about. unless it's about hot girls on music videos. seriuosly, music is the kind of stuff that makes friends... platonic friends.
you could use your little number thing too if you wanted, but why not just go on a date on the spot and get her number at the end of the night/day/ whatever
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Well, it's much easier to bash somebody or offer obvious advice than it is to confront a complicated issue and have to think before responding.
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it's simple stuff like this that you must correct right away, because it is an easy and quick fix
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.