"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl is afraid of commitment

salsalero

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A girl told me she is afraid of commitment.

What is she really saying here?
Should I pursue her?
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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WC2

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She's saying she's still in her party years and wants to have a lot of sex before she gets shacked up.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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But, it is true...
 

Big B

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It depends on what you want out of it. If your just looking to hook up then this is an ideal situation as far as that is concerned. If you want to get serious don't plan on changing her and what she wants to do.then when you get hurt by her you have no one to blame but yourself.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Lexie

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She's saying she's afraid of commitment. Don't over-analyze it. Has she just gotten out of an LTR? This is usually the problem.

But really, if you want to take her out go for it, just don't come on too strong.
 

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Dude every fvckin chick says that ****. When they say that sh1t ask why and whatever they say make them sound like they are a wimp nicely. Say oh really why are u so scared? What it boils down to is they are afraid they'll be hurt. Just put urself out there but not too afc. Get her comfortable. Dude all u gotta do is give her good attention then when she doesn't comply a little down the road say ur acting too flakey with me im going to chill out from u for a while (shell feel the loss). Then cut it off immediatley. In a couple days shell call u guranteed. Then qualify her shell say lets hang out or whatever then say well promise ur not going to be a flake then and apologize for being one. Then ur in.
 
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