Girl is a dud while fooling around

[sstype]

works at the same place as I do, I hooked up wit her few nights ago in the back parking lot of my work, and we made out for about 15 mins before she had to go home.

Tonight, we hooked up again and I took her to the back of a warehouse. Making out and I started fingering her (first time). She was definitlely wet, but was not making any noise whatsoever, so I could not respond properly. I tried rubbing her ****, come hither on her G-spot, and still nothing. Next, I tried getting her to suck me off, would not do it.
tried getting her to give me a handjob. nothing....

I mean when we were making out and all she definately seemed receptive, but geez, at other times she seemed like a dud, and it got boring real quick. It was like there was no freaking passion coming from her, so at times it felt like I was hitting a brick wall.

Dont get me wrong, this was an awesome experience, first time I actually got sexual with a girl. But I guess it did not fit my fantasies about what a girl does.

1. Maybe it was my inexperience that caused her to be cold at times. Keep in mind she HAS been with other guys before, and she definitely sucked and ****ed them.

2. She might be with another guy at the moment

3. Perhaps she does not see me as physically attractive??

4. Insecure?? She also told me rumors going around the store that she had slept with other guys there. maybe that was not a good time to fyck around.

5. Did not get her heated up enough. She was pressed for time, so I wanted to get it done with quick. Everytime I motioned her towards my crotch, she said, "but I have to go!"

I guess my question to you guys is, should I continue persisting with her and see where this goes, or is this one gonna flake out with me?

 

[Tazman]

I tell you what man, I tip my hat off to you for being so comfortable and forward being that this was your first time. You've got a great attitude about it. I was nervous the first time I tried anything, and of course I fvcked it up.........

 

[TonyTheTigerOI]

Persist. Great ****ing job!

But you have to know this - you cannot rush sex/sexuality. The more turned on she is, the easier things will flow. I take it you have her #... get together one day when you both have a while... enjoy a date and then take youre time making out, undressing her, touching her body, and goin down on eachother. If her mind is ANYWHERE but on you/her she will not be very receptive... rushing things adds stress to the equation and usually ruines it.

Again, great work! Just take her out when youve both got some time to waste =)

 

[Skullcrusher]

Several mistakes:

1. You're overanalyzing, stop assuming.

2. You hit on a coworker

3. You tried to do her at the workplace, how romantic.

--- Please resolve the following above before you continue on with your life---

I'm not going to answer your dumbass question cause it makes no sense.

 

[duttylove]

Tony is correct! any girl who is turned on and wants to get sexual will hold back or stop you if her mind is elsewhere. You need to connect with her a bit more. Talk dirty to her as your doing it, alot of woman love this and it turns them on even more, about 5 - 10 mins of fingering and talking like this she could have been riding your jock! think about it.

 

[sstype]

Originally posted by Skullcrusher
Several mistakes:

1. You're overanalyzing, stop assuming.

Ok. I agree with you

2. You hit on a coworker

So fycking what. I work part-time at a retail store. That does not exempt any girls that I work with.

3. You tried to do her at the workplace, how romantic.

No. It was at the back of an empty business complex. I take it you still think girls my age want romantic dinners and roses.

--- Please resolve the following above before you continue on with your life---

I'm not going to answer your dumbass question cause it makes no sense.

Well then do not respond if you have nothing to contribute....

 

[sstype]

yeah, I think the fact that she had a curfew to meet also played a factor in things not progressing well. Because of that, I rushed it and i was not thinking about how she felt.

Well, I'll try again tonight

 

[JackPrescott]

Damn, thats a helluva problem! Just keep doin what you doin', it's working!

 

[Qmanchoo]

I was with a girl once that after only a few days I found out she really liked hooking up in "public" at night, say in the dark part of a park under a tree or really dark side street and I kinda went with it. (dumb hor)

I was with a girl once that only liked missionary style, slow and steady, standard sex, in a bedroom on a bed. Made me wait a month until we had sex. And HATED oral sex...at first...because she was self concious and conservative and needed more time to warm up to me. (conservative inexperienced chick)

My only points here are don't put expectations on something where the outcome is completely unknown, and that all chix are are different when it comes to sex so just go with the flow and push it a small step further each time. I'd suggest trying to get her turned on as much as possible before any sexual encounter in the future.

Kino baby.

 

[Lickaclit]

First: Don’t ever ask her or any other woman for a handjob, again. It’s a useless waste of time.

Second: There’s no problem. You’re not in a relationship with her and she’s obviously not a special person to you—or else you’d have found a better place than the back of some dirty warehouse. Persistence is a pseudonym for “chasing and begging”. It only sounds better, and is only better when sex is definitely inevitable.

Third: Hooking up is great and all… but it’s nothing special; it’s something all men should leave behind at high school and spring break, it doesn’t indicate anything, really. Most girls, when you get down to it will hook up with any man—as a way to beat boredom or simply out of attraction. But it is generally as superficial as the makeup they wear. If you only wanted to kiss you wouldn’t be so unnecessarily frustrated about the situation. So, stop making out with her.

Fourth: Stop concerning yourself with her. Just confront her with the vibes and tell her that you want to have sex with her. If she becomes apprehensive about it, leave her and this seemingly dead-end affair alone and get on with your life.

Fifth: All of the above is moot if you want to pursue a relationship. Ingest it otherwise.

 

[sstype]

Originally posted by Lickaclit
First: Don’t ever ask her or any other woman for a handjob, again. It’s a useless waste of time.

Second: There’s no problem. You’re not in a relationship with her and she’s obviously not a special person to you—or else you’d have found a better place than the back of some dirty warehouse. Persistence is a pseudonym for “chasing and begging”. It only sounds better, and is only better when sex is definitely inevitable.

Third: Hooking up is great and all… but it’s nothing special; it’s something all men should leave behind at high school and spring break, it doesn’t indicate anything, really. Most girls, when you get down to it will hook up with any man—as a way to beat boredom or simply out of attraction. But it is generally as superficial as the makeup they wear. If you only wanted to kiss you wouldn’t be so unnecessarily frustrated about the situation. So, stop making out with her.

Fourth: Stop concerning yourself with her. Just confront her with the vibes and tell her that you want to have sex with her. If she becomes apprehensive about it, leave her and this seemingly dead-end affair alone and get on with your life.

Fifth: All of the above is moot if you want to pursue a relationship. Ingest it otherwise.

Lol, first let me clarify that this was at a " retail business complex" I am sorry if i sounded sleazy by saying warehouse..but that came to my head first.

I definately wanted to fyck her, so yeah I might have done it too fast, cause she had to get home by curfew. It sux, cause when you still live with your parents (and they are home ALL the time) what better options do you have

And by the way, I am still 18 playa, I could give a flying fyck about a relationship. I just want to fyck around with her. So anyways, I called her, she did not want me to come over to work after close, but I am still gonna stop by, and this time take it more slowly with her.
Trying to setup a time to meet on this saturday...if it flakes...I have another prospect in my literature class that I will use as my backup.


I mean, why play games?? I know what I want, and I intend on getting it. Im gonna persist with her until she pretty much decides to ignore me for the rest of her life, but SO FYCKING what. I am sure by then, I will get enough experience on what to do and what not to do when alone with a girl, and that TO ME, is more valuable than those ridiculous "hard-to-get" games everyone else does to inflate their egos

 

[sstype]

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[Rollo Tomassi]

Real easy. LMR, Last Minute Resistance. Easily remedied with the application of some manipulative freeze-out kino. I would brush up on this technique a bit and I have to concur that taking her in a warehouse (or wherever she's not entirely comfortable) for the first time so I'd advise her place or somewhere at least a bit more discreet. Alcohol (not too much) would probably loosen her up some too.

And never 'ask' a girl for anything sexual, particularly if it's the first time you've hooked up. This serves 2 purposes:

1.) You can avoid the appearance of the ultimate in lack of confidence for a guy.

2.) When you don't have a relationship established and you have sex with a woman for the first time, this is the first and best opportunity for you to evaluate her future sexual performance and decide if she's someone you'll want to actually spend more time with.

This is why I say there's no such thing as a perfect 10 you've never fvcked - the last point is earned on performance.

 

[penkitten]

young girls are logs.
it takes time to learn that kinda stuff .
get used to it.

 

[sstype]

well an update to my coworker chick...I am expecting this girl to NOT call me back this saturday for a meet. It is wierd, because only when I am AGGRESSIVE is when we start fooling around. Otherwise, she makes no effort to even talk to me. Hopefully you guys could explain this behavior.