"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Girl invites me to her birthday should I go or will I be friend zoned ?

Thechamp

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Girl invites me to her birthday should I go or will I be friendzoned ?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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El Payaso

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Depends. We need more context. Have you fvcked her already? Is she a long time friend or someone you just met? Is she someone you recently started dating? etc
 

Thechamp

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Facebook friend Latley she's been asking me what I'm up too , so not sure how to take it.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Yewki

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Facebook friend Latley she's been asking me what I'm up too , so not sure how to take it.
Ask her out to do something with you at a specific time. If she declines with no type of counter, then don't even waste time going to her birthday.
 

Who Dares Win

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As a general rule I wouldnt go, going to a place surrounded from her friends judging you, her orbiters fighting for her attention and trying to sabotage you while you stand there alone with no backup or friends.

Thanks but I pass on such things.

I remember once when a girl invited me to a party with her friends and thankfully I didnt go, saw the pictures on facebook 3 days later and it was her, her two female friends and about a dozen of guys clearly fighting for a piece of cake in every picture.

Downgraded her from potential date to potential fvck buddy same day just because she tought I was orbiter material, no resources invested in her at all any more.
 
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