"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Girl invited me to go out but as friends!

Blue Phoenix

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Guys, this is a tricky situation! this girl said most guys only wanted her for her body and that she was alone and "starving" for affection. She lives alone in an apartment.

First she asked me if I had a GF, later she asked me out. HOWEVER she said:
"Don´t think I´m hitting on you, we´re going out as friends".

Now, I think I don´t wanna go out anymore! Did she really mean that or was trying to go slow?

I´m thinking about telling her "For me to go out there must be something more than just friendship, so as you said we´re going out as friends I prefer to stay home. Maybe you can call your girlfriend to go out with you".

*Another fact was that she was talking about her old affair and needed to forget him!

Help me out guys! :crazy:
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JustDoItAlways

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Never listen to what a girl says. Only listen to what she actually does.

This "go out as friends only" means absolutely nothing unless she really "does" only go out with you as friends.

Ask her out on a date for just the two of you. See what she does.

Go out with her and her friends. Push up on her and make a move. See what she does.

Actions speak louder than words (especially with women).
 
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BLUE BIRD,She has past issues - trouble alert!!! I take it she is not a virgin!! Approach as a man if you like her -- you are the leader - not her!!!
 

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Last Man Standing said:
BLUE BIRD,She has past issues - trouble alert!!! I take it she is not a virgin!! Approach as a man if you like her -- you are the leader - not her!!!
Last Man is right. You're turning right onto AFC boulevard. She sounds like an attention wh0re to be honest.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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Cod3r

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She's just freeing herself of guilt for when and IF you decide to fvck her...


-Cod3r
 
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I didn't really get into details but I'll explain a bit - IF she is a virgin then she is tired of dudes trying to get into her panties and rather is looking for a "meaningful" relationship!

If she is NOT a virgin then she jas had sexual "experiences" in the past where dudes did their deed and then left her for the hor that she is and now she is upset that she gave "it' up and then they left her!!!!! Now she wants to "start over" fresh -- and now wants someone that wants "her" and NOT her body!!

Be careful - she may be using you in this time of transitional thinking and lonliness!!!
 

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"Don´t think I´m hitting on you, we´re going out as friends"
Frankly I'd of just flat-out ignored her after that remark and waited until she saw the error of her ways and contacted me again in a more appropriate manner. Girls quickly learn what isn't acceptable if you ignore them.

I recall telling a chick what movie we we're going to see once, she didn't want to see it - so I ignored her comment about not wanting to see it. 20 minutes later she responds in a happy more submissive tone and has no problem seeing it afterall.

Shame by then I'd already decided she was a c*** and I wasn't going to respond to her at all after that. But that's just me.

The Muscly Jerk
 

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When she said "Don´t think I´m hitting on you, we´re going out as friends" I thought "oh ok, at least I know where I stand!"

Come on guys, she was having an affair with a married man! She´s not a virgin and to be honest I don´t want her to be my GF of course, I just want some action! :whistle:

She´s a flight attendant btw.

I´m thinking about telling her "For me to go out there must be something more than just friendship, so as you said we´re going out as friends I prefer to stay home. Maybe you can call your girlfriend to go out with you".

Is it a good move?
 

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Cod3r said:
She's just freeing herself of guilt for when and IF you decide to fvck her...


-Cod3r
Exactly! Didn't she invite you? So say she invited you and you both had sex it would be her fault because she invited you. But saying just as friends, when she backwards rationalize it, it would've just happened you were going as friends then one thing lead to the other.

I say just go, if you play your cards right you will get her.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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