I've met this girl recently at a party. We've been texting for a while and now she asked if I want to go for drinks with her (just the two of us I suppose). How does this typically work? How do you tell if it's a date? I am supposed to take the bill etc? Ah ah. It's funny to be on the other side..
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You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
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Girl invited me for drinks - is it a date?
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How are we suppose to know ? We don't know the background between you two, or if you built some kind of "bond" between you.
Just go and try your best to get down her panties (enjoy yourself with her). By all means though, DO NOT pay her way. If she can't pay her own way in today's world then she ain't worth bothering with - If it's the case, then just stay at home with your slimy sock :crackup: . Paying a women's way is one of the reasons why so many of them are fvcked up and a million miles from reality. It's pathetic how many desperate doormats our there will bend over backwards to pay their way. Leave that to them though - you'll be the one who stands out above them if you don't pay
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Just go and try your best to get down her panties (enjoy yourself with her). By all means though, DO NOT pay her way. If she can't pay her own way in today's world then she ain't worth bothering with - If it's the case, then just stay at home with your slimy sock :crackup: . Paying a women's way is one of the reasons why so many of them are fvcked up and a million miles from reality. It's pathetic how many desperate doormats our there will bend over backwards to pay their way. Leave that to them though - you'll be the one who stands out above them if you don't pay
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So here's how it typically works, at least as far as it has been for me: if you do the inviting, you pay for both. If she does the inviting, you either go dutch or she pays for both of you. Since she's the one doing the invite (and therefore should know the pricing at the place you two are going), she should be prepared to pay for herself at the very least. Note: just because you're not paying for her doesn't mean she won't like you, nor will it mean she won't get physical with you in some way. Heck, some of the best dates I've had ended with me and a girl hooking up, and I didn't spend a dime on her!
One thing I would do if I were you, though, is to limit the texting. The more you text a girl in the beginning, the more likely she is to see you as just a friend since, by texting her constantly, you're essentially in her presence all the time. This also makes it more difficult to tell if she's inviting you out as a friend or as a guy she could potentially see herself with. If you had been texting her less, this invite would be a definite sign that she's into you. Regardless, I treat all outings with women as dates, even if they're just friends of mine. Where that date goes, however, is up to you, so make it count!
One thing I would do if I were you, though, is to limit the texting. The more you text a girl in the beginning, the more likely she is to see you as just a friend since, by texting her constantly, you're essentially in her presence all the time. This also makes it more difficult to tell if she's inviting you out as a friend or as a guy she could potentially see herself with. If you had been texting her less, this invite would be a definite sign that she's into you. Regardless, I treat all outings with women as dates, even if they're just friends of mine. Where that date goes, however, is up to you, so make it count!
5string
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Of course it's a date.