"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Girl in my math Class

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kk2004

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Hi guys...

There is this one girl in my math class and I can say that im attracted to her, and Ive spoken to her and I tease her and make fun of her, She asks me to help her out in math and I do.

I say things like
"Boy your a fast learner" - With a sarcastic look and tone
She gives me that look, like omg how could u say this to me. lol I love that look

She says :Im not so smart help me.
me: Yeah your not..laughing and smiling
she: (laughs)

She even exclaimed "Oh your so mean" -Lol that is the money shot. :)

But the problem is that there two other guys who are going "after" her.

We basically have a small group in math class, Three guys and two girls. Its me and these two other guys. We go to lunch or hang out after class.

I know as a RAFC that Im not supposed to care about what other guys do, But there interfering with my plot. THis one guy esp is all over her, hes making copies for her for class and they have two classes together. He has a very aggressive personality, but he does it in a smooth way. I come off more standoffish, and more rigid, stuck up/arrogant guy, I tease her the most out of all the guys.

Hes nice and confident at the same time, hes slick i guess. The funny thing is that the two girls always walk next to him, and they always wait for him when ever we leave class, they always make sure that he is with "us". They always say" Oh where is (name)"
She seems to be more comfortable and more open around this other guy. SHe displays more open body language, shes more relaxed around him, shes more tense when she is around me. i see her making eye contact with me and I can see that "sparkle" but I dont get it.

They even discussed their plans for the weekend in front of me
the two girls, i was sitting in the middle and they started to speak to each other.

girl 2 - is the one I like

girl1: hey what are u doing this friday
girl2: nothing
girl1:why dont you come to the movies with me
girl2: okay..so and so place right?
girl1: yeah

blah blah

I mean why didnt they talk when i wasnt there.. maybe they could be trying to put and idea into my head OR they couldnt give a two sh*its that I was there.

I really dont know, I mean If this was a one person deal then I woulda just asked her out already..but since shes got options i got to be more patient. THis one guy who also likes her wants to ask her, hes my friend and I really dont want to ****block him, so if he asks first then thats fine. But this other slick guy, who Im not friends with but I am just friendly is in my way. If i ask her out and she says no, then Im out of the game with her at least. The girl that I dont like so much is good looking too, I might just ask her out, considering I like her personality more.

Maybe u playas can guide me
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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BackToTheMack

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Man you make me f**king sick "ahhh maybe il go for the other girl because i like her personality" dont f**king demean yourself and go for the consilation prize be a DJ you want the hot girl then there is not a motherf**king thing standing in your way.

F**k the "slick" guy who is he anyway? He is nobody he makes copies for ehr and she wants to hang around him hes in the f**king friends zone and your friend one thing i learnt in life is friends are bull**** they will stab you in the back if the price is right. The only way to stay onto is to stab them in the back first and show no mercy.

You want that girl you tell her (thats right tell her) that you are going to take her out. You are a man and your incontrol of your life none else.
 
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def

okay ill let you know how this one goes...
 
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Like so many other people new to this idea of RAFC/DJ goals, you're taking advice too literally and to the extreme. You're going overboard on this teasing thing with her and its obviously showing because you say she is relatively tense around you. The point of the game is to show her that you're confident and in charge. Not to make her uncomfortable.

If you take nothing else out of my post, listen to this:

Focus on the goal, not the technique.
 
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hmm

so far hes wining... my goal would be to take her out. So i guess I have more rapport to establish and tone down the technique.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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whats with the yeah ur not thing? is that a northern thing? its nice!
 
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What are you doing man ?!


GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT.

That's right, forget about other guys, PLAY YOUR GAME.


Think of a horse race, will any of the horses stop racing because they have competition ? No, but the one who keeps running and runs faster wins.
 
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I know`

I wont back down... But this girl likes the slick guy more, so I want to realize my losses and back away when the gap gets too big..almost in a race when the other runner gets such a big lead that its better to stop runnning at all.

All I can do is initiate more rapport, instead of just neg'in her. Maybe she can start to see my personality a little more.
 
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Hmm...I don't really understand what you are asking, to be honest!

If you want her, ask her out before the other guys do. If you don't, don't.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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