"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

Read more...

Girl in Hospital

Toushi

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 11, 2006
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
Ok, I admit it. I had oneitis for this girl, the one who made me find this site and that i talked about in other of my posts. But coming here made me get over it... I've been with a lot of other girls and such, never allowing her to control my mind like a regular one-itis girl. It's sick to have it, but afterall, I'm human.

The funny thing. Although I liked her a lot, I set my mind with a 'Next', and went on with that in mind. It worked, till now.

Maybe some of you recall that in my early posts I've talked about some sickness of her. She would miss some classes and such, and had always to carry pills and medecines. Pretty fvcked up. But yesterday, she missed classes again, including an important exam. When in the exam, someone of the School's Board went there and talked to the teacher. I was close enough to hear the convo. It seems she's very bad this time, and is at the Hospital going through some serious stuff.

I couldn't avoid it, and I called her. No answer. I texted her. No answer. Nobody knows what really is going on with her, and the times I asked about this problem of her she always said something small and 'It's nothing to worry about.'.

The true is that she's at the hospital, and even her closest friends weren't able to find out how she is.

I know I'm acting needy and whatsoever, but I'm really worried about her. I'm not even much close to her. Who am I fooling? We're not even friends. I've only talked to her some times. I was already through with it, and I've met cool girls, and although I've lots to learn, I was fine. Until this. It's like a bomb fell on my lap and everything around just vanished.

Probably, the best thing would be to just forget about this, since I don't even know her quite well. But damn, I can't do it withouth feeling like a selfish prick.

Sorry, guys, I know you're tired of this kind of threads, but I want some serious advice on what to do.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

Read more...

Docs

Banned
Joined
Jul 27, 2005
Messages
3,571
Reaction score
56
Location
Kingston, Can-a-duh
Take a long breath.
Take another one.
And another.

Alright, now think about this. If she comes out alright, are you going to be quiet and submissive, or are you going to get to know her?

For now, all you can do is wait.
 

Toushi

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 11, 2006
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
Docs said:
Take a long breath.
Take another one.
And another.

Alright, now think about this. If she comes out alright, are you going to be quiet and submissive, or are you going to get to know her?

For now, all you can do is wait.
Thank you, Docs.

You're right... Only stuff like this to beat sense into us and to show us to never wait for tomorrow, and act today.

Thanks for your words.
 

True Wolf

Don Juan
Joined
May 28, 2005
Messages
187
Reaction score
0
Location
WA
Wow, i'm getting sick of seeing a bunch of pointless replies by keemo, this is number 3 i've seen today...

anyways...

I know what you mean man, i've been in a similar boat when you feel this one sided connection with someone that turns into oneitis and you can't seem to get over it. To be honest i have a case of it right now. But it's all about control and moderation. Yeah, there's this girl that i have oneitis for, but she isn't the only one on my mind and she isn't the center of my attention. (i'm field testing an antidote for oneitis at the moment more to come if it's a success) The point is you can have some chick you're really into, so long as it's attention in moderation. Don't make her out to be more than she is either.
She's a girl with a *****. How does that make her different from every other girl out there? It doesn't.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

Read more...

Toushi

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 11, 2006
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
True Wolf said:
Wow, i'm getting sick of seeing a bunch of pointless replies by keemo, this is number 3 i've seen today...

anyways...

I know what you mean man, i've been in a similar boat when you feel this one sided connection with someone that turns into oneitis and you can't seem to get over it. To be honest i have a case of it right now. But it's all about control and moderation. Yeah, there's this girl that i have oneitis for, but she isn't the only one on my mind and she isn't the center of my attention. (i'm field testing an antidote for oneitis at the moment more to come if it's a success) The point is you can have some chick you're really into, so long as it's attention in moderation. Don't make her out to be more than she is either.
She's a girl with a *****. How does that make her different from every other girl out there? It doesn't.

Yeah, I understand you. I did exactly as you said, and although I felt the ON power in her, she wasn't the center of my attention. The point is that, like Docs said, I was too passive. Probably because she was a ON girl, I tried to stay away from her too hard. I was totally wrong.

All that I know is that she's pretty messed up and I didn't do shyt before this. I should have done something... Even if ended up dumped or something like that. Now I'm just praying that the next time my phone rings is with good news.
 

supajsilver2

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 17, 2005
Messages
149
Reaction score
0
Listen to Docs on this one.

As a sub-question, not to distract from Toushi's more serious problems...I found out today my girlfriend was in the hospital from last night to this afternoon with food poisoning. She should be getting out later today. Appropriate response to something like this...???? Should I feel obligated to do something special for her? Thanks for the replies...if any, heh.

_J_
 

supajsilver2

Don Juan
Joined
Apr 17, 2005
Messages
149
Reaction score
0
:crackup: Anything but food, right?:p

I went out, bought a pink rose and a cheap blue necklace I thought she would like and warpped the necklace around the rose. I don't think I've ever seen her that happy.

_J_
 

B-Lemond

Master Don Juan
Joined
May 9, 2005
Messages
1,007
Reaction score
10
Location
On The Road to Self-Improvement
Toushi said:
Ok, I admit it. I had oneitis for this girl, the one who made me find this site and that i talked about in other of my posts. But coming here made me get over it... I've been with a lot of other girls and such, never allowing her to control my mind like a regular one-itis girl. It's sick to have it, but afterall, I'm human.

The funny thing. Although I liked her a lot, I set my mind with a 'Next', and went on with that in mind. It worked, till now.

Maybe some of you recall that in my early posts I've talked about some sickness of her. She would miss some classes and such, and had always to carry pills and medecines. Pretty fvcked up. But yesterday, she missed classes again, including an important exam. When in the exam, someone of the School's Board went there and talked to the teacher. I was close enough to hear the convo. It seems she's very bad this time, and is at the Hospital going through some serious stuff.

I couldn't avoid it, and I called her. No answer. I texted her. No answer. Nobody knows what really is going on with her, and the times I asked about this problem of her she always said something small and 'It's nothing to worry about.'.

The true is that she's at the hospital, and even her closest friends weren't able to find out how she is.

I know I'm acting needy and whatsoever, but I'm really worried about her. I'm not even much close to her. Who am I fooling? We're not even friends. I've only talked to her some times. I was already through with it, and I've met cool girls, and although I've lots to learn, I was fine. Until this. It's like a bomb fell on my lap and everything around just vanished.

Probably, the best thing would be to just forget about this, since I don't even know her quite well. But damn, I can't do it withouth feeling like a selfish prick.

Sorry, guys, I know you're tired of this kind of threads, but I want some serious advice on what to do.

How do I get THIS SPECIFIC girl: Useless Thread #2
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

Toushi

Don Juan
Joined
Feb 11, 2006
Messages
105
Reaction score
0
B-Lemond said:
How do I get THIS SPECIFIC girl: Useless Thread #2
Yeah, very probably. I just needed to vent it out. And I am truly worry, you know?
 
Top