Girl I'm seeing won't have sex

[Funlol]

I've been on like ten or eleven dates with this Korean girl. We make out, she lets me touch her through her clothes.. But that is the extent of it. Every time I try to finger her or remove her clothes she stops me.

This has been going on since about date 4... Same thing over and over. Honestly, I'm getting bored and losing interest. Last time we met I ddint even really try and **** her because I knew I would be rejected.

What should I do? Next her? Or should I change my strategy? Should I just be direct and tell her "listen if there's no sex, I gotta move on＂?

All thoughts apprecieated

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

no no no dont just next her

next time she stops you ask her whats up, whats holding her back. Maybe its something simple like she isnt comfortable in the location your making these moves.

At the very least find out whats stopping her before you move on so you can learn from it.

And fyi there is no reason you cant be dating other girls while your seeing her

just curious how old are you?

 

[Funlol]

I'm 24.. I've had sex with 8 new girls in 2010 so far.. So I am seeing others.. But the longest it toook for any of them was five dates. Who knows what's up with her

 

[Sir Psycho Sexy]

haha I didnt expect that answer. 8 new girls in 4 months?

From what you had posted I just assumed you were one of the many guys at this site who struggles to even get dates let alone laid. but in this case your wasting your time.

 

[Funlol]

I think so too. I should have given up long ago. Just wish there was a way to screen them so I won't waste time in the future

 

[hansol]

Well you could always try freezing her out a'la Mystery Method game. "Last minute resistance" and all that crap.

Although, it IS a bit of work. I suppose it would depend on how hot this chick was, and how badly you wanted in her pants. From the sounds of things though you're getting play elsewhere easily, so that might dictate how much effort you want to put in.

 

[TizZle]

Just tell her that you can't see her anymore. tell her its not about the sex thing but you guys might not have that "spark". if she's interested she'll stop you.

 

[Funlol]

Update - so I kind of upped the pressure on her. I stopped picking up her calls and answering her texts. She went crazy.. Called me a bunch, left voicemail saying how much she liked me and how afraid she was that I would leave her... So I called her back and told her that I think we should just move on as it's not going anywhere.

She then told me that she was a virgin!

Haha. I guess it all made sense then. I still maintained the pressure and last night I finally took her virginity. It took about 14 dates but I guess it was worth it.. Only the second girl who's virginity I've robbed.

The only problem I have now os that the girl is head over heels in love with me. She keeps talking about planning trips with me and our future. I wouldn't be surprised if she's already thinking about marriage. She has never asked if I'm seeing other girls.. Do you think it's because she's afraid to know the answer? Anyways.. Any advice for me? How do I slowly get rid of her without completely destroying her heart and faith in humanity? I mean I haven't lost interest in her yet.. But I know it will happen soon

 

[Ease]

Dont want to point the obvious but why did you not say 'why?' after she stopped you. Thats the first thing i would have though of doing.

I was just about to say maybe its a korean thing or shes a virgin, and saw your last post.

 

[horaholic]

no no no dont just next her

next time she stops you ask her whats up, whats holding her back. Maybe its something simple like she isnt comfortable in the location your making these moves.

At the very least find out whats stopping her before you move on so you can learn from it.

unfortunately that is a LOGICAL move, and women do not respond to it. Dont do this, at least not until you've tried all other LMR killing tactics. if she's a virgin, she's a virgin, though. Thats a different ballgame there.

My EX was pulling that shyt last night. I just plowed through, though. I've already banged her hundreds of times, so I know she wasnt gonna cry rape, (not that it was in any way like that). She kept trying to stop me from advancing, and ignored it and kept going. Eventually got some.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

This is textbook. One of the biggest pitfalls of sleeping with a virgin is that they will try to get their claws into you and never let go. You have to be weary of this when deciding to have sex with one, and it's definitely a situation of having to weight the pros and cons. Thankfully, I haven't been in that position before.

I wish I could help you with this. Are you planning on just moving on or continuing to hit that? Obviously the approach will be different depending on that. The fact that you referred to it as "robbing" her virginity isn't doing us guys any good. This mentality is exactly why you'll look like a predator and a terrible person simply for having sex with someone that hadn't done it before. You'll look like the bad guy (which you aren't unless you misled or were dishonest in some way). Not trying to attack you, just trying to show you how society's mentality will not work in your favor here.

 

[backbreaker]

if you are not having sex, you are not seeing her, you are entertaining her.

 

[actionjaxson]

if you have other options and not planning on having a relationship with her toss her to the curb.

 

[Sherlock-Holmes]

Wrong wrong wrong. All wrong. Korea = Asian. Asia = collectivistic culture. Asian culture = more conservative. Be patient, be gentle. I'm sure she will think it over one day.