Dude, when a chick wants to be "exclusive" and then is feeling you out to fvck around with other men, you drop her ass. Don't let others try to tell you different telling you that it's ok. It's not ok, it's disrespectful and she is going back on her word. It shouldn't take you this long to drop her for that.
MtnMan said:
some seriously conflicting responses in this thread. Not sure how to proceed, to be honest. Normally I try to take in advice, ruminate in it for a while and proceed while following my gut. At this point, not sure what my gut is saying.
There's conflicting responses because some people don't know what they're talking about. :yes:
I already told you what to do in my original response. :yes:
This woman has clearly disrespected you. She told you she wanted you not to have other women as options. You agreed by giving up your power. She said she wanted to be "exclusive" and is now wanting "slow sex" with another man. If she wanted to be "exclusive", there would be no need for another man in the picture. There would be no need for any "tests" because you agreed to what she wanted. She can have other men wanting to rub her cl!t while you have to sit there as a powerless man with no options reacting to her sh1tty behavior. She is getting what she wants because she knows you will put up with it.
MtnMan said:
I've already told her I wasn't cool with it, and she backpedaled pretty hard claiming it was just him offering, she wasn't considering doing it with him.
Of course you wouldn't be cool with it.
If she is "exclusive" with you, she shouldn't even be thinking of doing it with another man to begin with. That thought shouldn't even cross her mind. Just the fact that she thought of it to tell you about it, shows her disrespect towards you. You gave her what she wanted "exclusivity" and now she wants to go back on what she wanted.
That right there tells you, this woman is not LTR material and shouldn't be taken seriously.
Women who respect you and want you as their only man, won't be looking or "considering" fvcking another man.
That's why I already told you to get another woman to have as an option. When you have options women won't treat you this way. You agreed to relinquish your options for her. That tells her that you will do anything she wants you to do. That was the real test that you failed. So now as a powerless man, she can flaunt this other dude in your face as you react to her behavior. Is all this drama worth it for some woman who isn't your girlfriend? Even a girlfriend shouldn't be worth this kind of drama.
When a chick has other dudes "offering" to sexually satisfy her and she has to "consider" it, that's when you man up and leave. :yes:
Backpedaling doesn't mean sh1t for innocence, in fact it shows guilt. The chicks I fvcked from school backpedaled when their boyfriends were questioning them claiming "nothing ever happened' and "we were only friends".
Sh1t, I had one chick bent over in the shower pounding her ass, slapping away at her ass cheeks and she had the nerve to say we were "only friends". Can you believe that? :crackup:
Do you think she is going to admit she wanted sex with that guy? Don't be naive now.
MtnMan said:
I am DEFINITELY NOT COOL with someone else engaging in a sexual act with a girl who promised sexual exclusivity to me.
Don't believe everything a chick tells you. Promises are made to be broken, especially a woman's, when she is being shady in which you are doing nothing about except talking to her about it.
No offense, but you are taking on the woman's role here being insecure. She should be worried about you fvcking other women. She's not worried because you relinquished your options to her. You gave up your power to satisfy her and in return she has other men wanting to fvck her.
MtnMan said:
I guess the next time I see her I'm going to have to reinforce my position on the whole situation and let the fallout happen. I'm bummed about this, but have accepted that I may have to let this girl go if things don't turn around.
You guess? Don't you mean you should? :crazy:
You should have already let her go like I said in my first post. Wasting all this time for nothing with her and nothing has changed has it?
Talking to her does no good, when she isn't taking you seriously after you gave up your power. Her mind is already made up with what she wants, and your words aren't going to change anything. She will only tell you what she wants you to hear, while she does what she wants.
Like I said before, she isn't to be taken seriously because she wants another man after she wanted to be "exclusive" with you. That's a fvcking joke. I would have laughed in her face and told her to hit the road.
Women only understand action. Trying to reason logic about why this isn't a good idea will get you no where except wasting your time. :yes:
