"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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girl im not attracted to

joe45

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would you date or keep seeing a girl your not attracted to at all in physical looks. my parents introuce me a girl and i saw her pic and i was like umm nope. not my type looks wise and we know her through family friend
they saying her pic is just pic and in person might look better but i doubt it as why wyould u send a crap looking pic to me.

they push me to go meet her and see since they have a mindset they say she be the one and marry me and good girl, wont waste money, dont wear makeup and not party girl wont cheat and all this from one pic they believe they know a person just by looking at her lol . so whats so bad about girl wearing makeup they say its waste of money and will spend all my money and we wiull argue about money

also we are chinese and she chinese
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Yewki

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Honestly, even if she looks unattractive in the picture, there's still a chance you'll like her in person... it's rare but it happens. Also, if you don't have a whole lot of experience with girls, you should probably take it just for the sake of experience anyways.

Generally I agree with you, but if you have no other plans might be worth your time.
 

DragonBlood

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Sounds self-defeatist. Go for the experience, maybe the lay if you change your mind. But above all dont ***** out of a free date.
 

thunder_god

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As I guy that passed up on opportunities like this from friends, I regret not doing this. Even if you don't like the girl, you need the experience. What happens if 6 months down the line, you meet a girl that you really like and you two have great chemistry but then you **** it up because you have no experience dating at all? You'll be kicking yourself in the balls all day and night that you ****ed up that opportunity.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Some faces are not photogenic but look good in person. If she is a warpig - there's no mistaking that.

On the basis of the prior - I would go. Use it as practice and a catalyst for improvement in your game - you'll probably find that since you actually don't give a f*ck, your frame and game will be more on point than ever. Read up on tactics and field test them - hot/cold, push/pull, neg, hook, etc (assuming you're a rookie.)

Take that mentality and what you learned from the experience and bring it to the next date you land with someone.
 
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