"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Girl I'm interested in has a boyfriend....she's showing me the signs though....

Balla_Baby_69

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To understand the situation, think of Danny and Melinda in the past Real World season. Basically, she has a boyfriend but we have been spending some time together and she's showing me the signs and stuff and likes spending time with me, blah blah.

Her boyfriend is on the basketball team at my school (we are freshman) and they have been together for almost a year. But I think they are having problems. Like last night at the party I was with her and close to when it was time to leave her boyfriend came to the party and he didn't even talk to her and she was mad about that and (I quote) said "my boyfriend is an ***hole."

Also, I have never seen them together, not since I've been here (2 weeks). I've seen him around but never with her.

So, I'm guessing it would end sooner or later. I need advice on how to keep her interested until that happens so I won't end up in the friend zone by that time and also should I ever talk to her about her boyfriend? Cus I remember on the Real World Danny would talk to Melinda about her relationship and it seemed he was slyly convincing her to break up with him. And it worked.....

Any advice? BTW, I don't have oneitis. I'm talking to about 3 other girls at the moment.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Originally posted by Balla_Baby_69
To understand the situation, think of Danny and Melinda in the past Real World season. Basically, she has a boyfriend but we have been spending some time together and she's showing me the signs and stuff and likes spending time with me, blah blah.

Her boyfriend is on the basketball team at my school (we are freshman) and they have been together for almost a year. But I think they are having problems. Like last night at the party I was with her and close to when it was time to leave her boyfriend came to the party and he didn't even talk to her and she was mad about that and (I quote) said "my boyfriend is an ***hole."

Also, I have never seen them together, not since I've been here (2 weeks). I've seen him around but never with her.

So, I'm guessing it would end sooner or later. I need advice on how to keep her interested until that happens so I won't end up in the friend zone by that time and also should I ever talk to her about her boyfriend? Cus I remember on the Real World Danny would talk to Melinda about her relationship and it seemed he was slyly convincing her to break up with him. And it worked.....

Any advice? BTW, I don't have oneitis. I'm talking to about 3 other girls at the moment.
dont talk about her boyfriend, if they having problems thats last thing she wanna think of, and thats what friends talk about, talk to her about fun stuff, try doing stuff with her "as friends" and hit on her.
 

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So I shouldn't bring up that "80% of females are unhappy with their relationships" statistic?
 

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Originally posted by Balla_Baby_69
So I shouldn't bring up that "80% of females are unhappy with their relationships" statistic?
No you shouldn't.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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"my boyfriend is an ***hole."
and he just happens to be the one fvcking her right now.

I wonder what get's her panties wet? her so called A##hole BF or spending time with you?

nuff said?

but we have been spending some time together and she's showing me the signs and stuff and likes spending time with me, blah blah.
yep - of course she does, your her new GF.

Any advice?
in 90%+ of these cases, the symp (the guy who is spending time with the girl) never gets the poon. why? because he's her GF, her emotional tampon.

Your better off not wasting your time with this chick - and if you are, you'd better make damn sure it is worth your time.

Tell her that you want her to hook you up with some of her hot friends. make it worth your time. Otherwise, tell her that you into her - and if she becomes single, to call you up.

my rule is, never be anyones GF.
 

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Agree with everything NewMan said.

A$$hole is another word women use to describe a man that likes to do it his way and doesn't give a fvck because he knows he can get away with it.

He may be an A-hole to her today, but tomorow is another day where they will probably end up in bed together and make peace (without you knowing about it). Most relationships have ups and downs.

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