"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Girl im fooling around with says she protective of me

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Good, or red flag? She says she has no feelings and doesnt want to hurt me. Straight up told me shes using me, I said the same back, bc honestly dont give a sh*t if she knows or not. We said that the first time meeting, tonight was the third meet up.

Long story short she was engaged and the guy called it off, that was two years ago, and shes still hurt.

To me, it seems she doesnt want to get hurt, not me. She keeps telling me she doesnt want to hurt me....

Also tells me if I ever need anyone to talk to or get shi*t of my chest she'll be there.

She also holds a lot of sh*t back fro me, which to me isnt good, but usually ends up telling me eventually, dont know whats a lie or whats not.

Only thing that keeps me going with her is shes a freak and knows what I want without me telling her.

Nailed it, or am I wrong here?
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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i have no idea wth you wrote, what are you trying to ask?

unless you want responses like "oh hell ya you hit the mother load"
 
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lol my bad, bipolar moment rant. Im asking what that means bc I cant see through her like I can most girls.
 
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Never trust what a girl says, trust only her actions.

I had a girl splash out her number, email and she showed LOADS of interest in me fairly quickly. But guess what, she made sure she knew i was a "friend" fairly quickly too.

Weeks later she told me she wanted to kiss me, badly.

You can never know on words alone my friend. My guess is she cares about you. Women can never just continually "use" (by which I assume you mean fvck? and not just rinsing your wallet) a person without feeling things for that person.

Women think with their emotions, they can only have amazing sex by "connecting" with a person, and that is biological. Women who have better orgasms are more likely to get pregnant easier. (should you be stupid enough to have unprotected sex)

Men are logical and simple, we know it feels good to stick our anatomy in something and then we are biologically designed to move on.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Cherokee said:
Never trust what a girl says, trust only her actions.

I had a girl splash out her number, email and she showed LOADS of interest in me fairly quickly. But guess what, she made sure she knew i was a "friend" fairly quickly too.

Weeks later she told me she wanted to kiss me, badly.

You can never know on words alone my friend. My guess is she cares about you. Women can never just continually "use" (by which I assume you mean fvck? and not just rinsing your wallet) a person without feeling things for that person.

Women think with their emotions, they can only have amazing sex by "connecting" with a person, and that is biological. Women who have better orgasms are more likely to get pregnant easier. (should you be stupid enough to have unprotected sex)

Men are logical and simple, we know it feels good to stick our anatomy in something and then we are biologically designed to move on.
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I always judge by actions. Not words. Her actions are telling me shes wants me like no other. Shes a freak, grabbing my hair, making out with me the second I pull back, and I mean hard. Getting dripping wet literally 5 seconds after I just finger her.

About the money part. She payed for me every time we went out. Gives me cigarettes without me asking.

Shes fun, really fun, ha ha.
 
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Then if thats her definition of using you then that's a good thing. Judge by her actions my friend.
 
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They all say that BS about not wanting to hurt you,not wanting to be in a relationship....... until you wake up in one.
 
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sodbuster said:
They all say that BS about not wanting to hurt you,not wanting to be in a relationship....... until you wake up in one.
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Thats what I am going through right now. She says that she doesn't want to make a relationship and that I should get out now because she is moving away for a few months for paleontology work (I'll be on a bicycle tour cross country so I don't really care that much about being away for so long).

She also said to me last night that she would come visit me in Kansas City, MO during my next bike trip (300 miles away), I go by her actions and not the words that she is saying.

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They all say that BS about not wanting to hurt you,not wanting to be in a relationship....... until you wake up in one.
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Exactly what I thought, thanks bro
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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comic_relief said:
Thats what I am going through right now. She says that she doesn't want to make a relationship and that I should get out now because she is moving away for a few months for paleontology work (I'll be on a bicycle tour cross country so I don't really care that much about being away for so long).

She also said to me last night that she would come visit me in Kansas City, MO during my next bike trip (300 miles away), I go by her actions and not the words that she is saying.

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Its funny how they think they have the power, when we can see right past the bullsh*t.
 
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bump with an update

Remember how I said the girl likes to be single more than in relationship and how I figured she was full of BS on that front. Well, she was.

We officially became boyfriend/girlfriend yesterday.

Just go with your gut and it is usually correct. People say the craziest things but once you get in their mind they will cross rivers and climb mountains to realize what they want :woo:

They all say that BS about not wanting to hurt you,not wanting to be in a relationship....... until you wake up in one.
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- comic_relief
 
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