"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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girl i work with, hooking me up...(question)

.illadelph

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i'll try to keep this short as possible. one day i got a friend request on myspace from some girl, she's hot...and i couldn't believe she found out about me through social proof. that's a first for me.

we've kept in touch through myspace, and although i had no intentions of hooking up with this girl at first, my thoughts have changed. i thought her friend didn't really ahve interest in me, but the girl i work with says that ..i knew as soon as she saw you, she'd want you...i was like "damn"...

the girl i work with said that her friend has a boyfriend, but is going to break up with him any day now. today at work, the girl insisted on giving me her friends number...

now, this is where i'm at. i have the girls number, now what do i do? i know i should call her eventually, but what do i say? any smart advice? don't flame me lol, because i'm serious about this and don't have much experience at all...

thanks.
 
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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hey its ______ how u doing...? (some fluff talk)
end with: i think we should hang out on ____day , i was going to the movies wanna tag along? maby get a bite to eat afterwards....

if she says no , then say oki no problems talk to ya another time..... then u have the option to next her or wait a week or so to try again....

if she says yes , then have a good time....

and read the dj bible , it will help you understand quite a few stuff about the hole dating scene....
i know its really loooong but just trust me , itl be worth it in the end
 
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i'd say somebody is medling in other peoples buisness. If you think her friend has not interast in you, then your probably right (gut instinct). She eather doen't like her b/f or she REALLY LIKES HIM.

if you judge she has not interast in you, then trust that, what ever her friend tells you, could be motvated by something else.

"i knew as soon as she saw you, she'd want you" sounds like meddling to me.
 

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she hasn't seen me in person, but on myspace...we've been commenting back and forth for a couple weeks now.

this might change things a bit. she posted a comment about dropping by to see me at work several times, and missed me each one...i dunno, that seems like interest to me, so...i really wanna give this a shot.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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