Girl I ran into

[jay56]

There was this girl I used to go to school with 5 years ago but I have not seen her since. She used to be REALLY into me bigtime back then, she was a bit obsessive and would not leave me alone for about a year. She wanted to sleep with me and whatnot aswell but she just was not my type so I rejected her, still she would not leave me alone. I was never friends with this girl or anything, she just knew a couple of my friends and I never even talked to her other than telling her I was not interested.

Well by chance I was walking around one day and I saw her and she looked totally different so I went up and approached her and she did not recognize how I looked till I told her who I was and her jaw literally dropped. We talked for a couple minutes and I got her phone number. I called her 4 days later on Wednesday but I got her message machine saying she was on a trip till Sunday so I didn't leave a message and I just called her back on Tuesday a couple days after she got back, I wanted to let her calm down after a trip.

I called her up and she picked up after a couple rings and she was really excited to hear from me and I asked her to get together on Saturday but she said she just had to check and make sure she does not have work on Saturday and that she has my number on caller ID so she will call back. She didn't call back yet and that was last Tuesday night and I have not made any phone calls to her since we talked.

I'm wondering what would be the best thing to do in this situation? What should I expect? I get a feeling she is just trying to play "hard to get" with me now but I need some advice on what to expect and whatnot.

Thanks for your help guys I really appreciate it alot!

 

[Grey Fox]

Well let me get this straight, she was crazy for you but you had no interest. Looks different, which I take as to mean she looks a lot better than the first time around. And now you want to hit that up, and take her out. Now she could be playing hard to get, because now the shoe is on the other foot. In that case wait another week and then call her and see whats up. That will definately test her IL, don't worry about calling her again any time soon, if she is interested than she can wait a week.

Of course I should warn you that she may be trying to spite you. She was hounding you day and night and you turned her down. So she gets angry at you and herself, resolves to change her ways and better herself. So one day you meet up with the new her and now its her turn to reject you and make you the one thats all crazy this time around. Keeping that in mind that is why I say you should play the longer waiting game and call sometime next week. If she expects you to come calling like a little lost dog she will be at first suprised that you didn't call again. Then she will start wonder about it and wait for the call. Essentailly right now if she is intending to play the waiting game, you should wait a little longer than usual to call her. Hopefully this will breakdown her new found "goddess" complex and you can do your thing.

-Grey Fox

 

[jay56]

Good advice so far, thank you alot!!

 

[Blake]

Damn, Grey Fox! Perfect analysis and advice right there.

 

[jay56]

Heres an update.

It's been a couple weeks so far and I have not called her yet and she has not called me back. Anymore advice?

Thanks alot for your help so far though fellas I really appreciate it a ton!

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Dude call her up already - it is not as if she had your number memorized - maybe she accidentally deleted your number or the phone unit was unplugged and erase her memory.

Give another sincere effort and ask her if she was in a coma for the last two weeks. If she doesn't respond favorably then just move on.

 

[FratAndDiddy]

yeah, call her back
you shouldn't have waited 2 weeks.
try to find out if she's interested and try to find out if she just wants to spite you

 

[jay56]

I have not called her back yet but I ended up running into her and one of her friends and we talked for a few minutes and then I just left.

I introduced myself to her friend but didn't realize it till now that I met her before when I was with my ex girlfriend awhile back but she didn't say anything at the time.

I just said whats up and whatnot and was just telling her I have been busy partying every nite and all that stuff then I got out of there.

 

[jay56]

Thanks so much for all your help so far guys.

Do you have anymore advice please?

 

[Grey Fox]

Well, I really can't say much considering there are next to no details in your account of bumping into her recently. But I will say this, start looking out for other girls to date. Also go ahead and call her. Except this time schedule something for the weekday. See as a DJ your weekend time is priceless and usually saved for your best girl you are working on. Make her feel that her new looks are now a tool to work at something that was once impossible to have but now only a difficult but rewarding task.

-Grey Fox

 

[jay56]

When I ran into her I just said whats up and whatnot and asked her how's it going and all that and we talked for like 5 minutes or so. When I was talking to her one of my ex-girlfriends "friends" was there with her but I didn't recognize her at first so I just introduced myself to her friend. I went out to dinner with this girl one time with my ex and some of her friends and my friends but it was awhile ago.


She didn't say anything about not calling or anything but I was just telling about how I'm busy this weekend and how I'm going to be out partying and whatnot and she was just saying how she has just been busy with work and working quite a few hours and she was asking what I was doing over the summer and whatnot. BTW the girl she was with wasnt really "friends" with my ex-gf they just knew each other and had same social circle. And to be totally honest I'm really not worrying about this at all, I dont want a relationship or anything right now anyways I just want a quick bang just to let you all know. When we were talking I let her know how I have been busy and all and how I have to do alot of stuff this weekend and all aswell, crazy parties mostly for this week.

Not sure if I mentioned this before but the girls 18.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Leave this girl alone already!! She didn't call you because she was busy working????? What in sam-hill is going on here!! She works 24 hours a day???

She never had any intention of calling you back - a woman is NEVER 'too busy' to see a man who she has romantic interest in!!

 

[FratAndDiddy]

even if you are just trolling for a quick 'bang' as you say, the quick bang wont happen if she's not somewhat attracted to you.
this chickie's not interested and has moved on doing her own thing working 24 hours a day or how many other hours it takes to let you know she ain't interested.

 

[blackjack]

PuertoRican_Lover U just hit it where it was weak.

A woman is NEVER 'too busy' to see a man who she has romantic interest in!!

This is the whole story. do they forget to tidy there room. do they dont gossip at all if they are sunk in work 24 hrs a day. they do all girly shyt cause they are governed by there emotions. and yes they would had called u if it wouldnt had been a game for them too. it might be she is trying to act a calss on to her self in front of u. so deal with it.

NEXT..

 

[splinterkb]

Dump that ***** already. If she's "too busy" to return your phone calls or do anything with you, then you're too busy to have anything to do with her. NEXT