Originally posted by hopetobePUA
So this girl Ive liked for a little while and I were talking, and I told her that I liked her and whatnot, and she said she liked me a lot too. Alright, so Im thinkin, what do I have to lose, right? So a couple days later I ask her to be my girlfriend and she says "Awww, I dont know" so Im like "Well why, I thought you liked me?" and so shes like "I do, but Im still hung up on my ex-boyfriend. Ill think about it." Ok, now this is where you guys come in. What should I do to make her forget all about him?
It can be a test, or she is just fooling around in an attempt to win more attention.
The second possibility is only possible if you have displayed an "AFCish" personality around her.
You be the judge. You know her better than I do. Look at her while she talks to you. Do you trust her?
A forum goes only so far. We advise you - you do the work.
When she told you "Awww, I don't know," was she smiling, smirking or expressing any positive gesture - ignore your opinion that the smile could be sympathy.
Did she look upset, confused, or indifferent? Was she in a rush?
Keep these questions in mind.
Words command the respect of dog waste. Action, my friend, is the flawless lie detector. Action speaks for itself; words, on the other hand, are intentional.
P.M. me if you have any private questions that you do not wish to disclose publicly.
Good luck with your situation.
The most important tip is to "keep cool." Do not get desperate.
In-other-words: Give her space; do not push it.
Unfortunately, most humans obsess over things they can not have.
She misses her ex-boyfriend because it is over.
So play against her weakness. She needs desire. By giving her some space, you are falling away from her radar. She will want you more. Soon that want will turn into a burning desire, overtaking the ex-boyfriend desire.
