"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Took her out this past Saturday (now 5 days ago). We had a few drinks beforehand at the bar at an adult go-kart place - a very fun date. I was all over her, arm over her back, fingers running across her back and her arms, moving her bangs when they fell, touching her chin… she was completely comfortable. Conversation was very flirty. At the end of the night she invited me to her condo's holiday party that is tomorrow (Friday) and said that she would talk to me sometime this week…

I have not made contact in any way since the date. Her finals week is right now and ends tomorrow (the day of the holiday party)... Since I haven't heard from her I have made back up plans with others - I'm not going to put my life on hold for her.

If she doesn't call by tomorrow afternoon I was thinking of sending her a "Congratulations!" text message. As she will be done with her last final ever (she's graduating college)... Harmless?

I have not called her often except to talk for a few minutes and set up dates with her and even with those calls I spaced them out to be about once a week at the most.

I have posted asking for feedback on another issue with this girl. Some of the post may be relevant: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=90942

I'm very interested in hearing your suggestions... thanks.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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If she's leaving...dont' look too far in her direction. The best you can probably pull is a ONS. Go nuts, I'll let others advise.
 
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Sounds to me like you have everything covered and you're handling the situation just fine.
 
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I say go to the party and dont worry about the phone call. She aint your mommie. She invited you to the party go if you want but have the back-ups in case the situation goes bad at the party. If you want to send a message say that you'll be there at the party whenever it is or give her like a 20min warning.

You got it on lock, man. Just show up. Mingle alittle. If you dont think is going well bail or go for another chick at the party.
 
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Docs - She's staying in town for work for quite some time. So I'm shooting for more than a ONS with her.

I'm going to take DonMEgaHoss's advice and text her that "I'll be there at 7... should I come upstairs first or meet you in the lobby?" something along those lines...

Thanks for the quick response!
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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You haven't called her in 5 days since the date? Why are you waiting so long? Call her now and talk for a bit, see how she's doing and set something up. Don't let the situation get weird.
 
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Wheelin - She said she'd call me but asked me to come to her condo's holiday party...

I've been following the advice on the forums about not calling too much, calling to chat for a bit but in the end set up a date... so far so good... Trying not to appear needy, etc...
 
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Originally posted by nd123
Wheelin - She said she'd call me but asked me to come to her condo's holiday party...

I've been following the advice on the forums about not calling too much, calling to chat for a bit but in the end set up a date... so far so good... Trying not to appear needy, etc...
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What women say and what women do are 2 different things. If she said she'll call you back, pretend like she never even said that. Call her up when you think is a reasonable time frame and get things going. Some women are idiots with the phone and sometimes it takes a guy to step up and get the ball rolling. Although the advice on this forum is a good starting point, that wait a week or more bullsh*t with phone calls is a bit ridiculous.
 
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You already set something up by via the party thing... Just give alittle prewarning text or message thats is if you want or just show up.
 
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i just called her and got her voicemail... i left her one along the lines of: "hey new alumna, just calling to say hey and congratulations... i'll be at your place around 630/645, call me back when you get a chance"

i'll show up then, hopefully this continues to go as smoothly as it has been goin...

thanks for lending ur ears
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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she just called me back... said that her mother and her mother's friend are going to be stopping by tonight to see the new condo but doesnt know what time yet... said she is probably not going to the party bc of this but said that we'll be going out elsewhere to get smashed later tonight...

guess that wraps this up... thanks again
 
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