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Girl has sex with me on first date... Haven't really heard from her since the day aft

Manystyles

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Here's my story which I will try and condense as there is a lot.

I had annual leave a couple weeks ago and went back home to NJ. Went out in NYC one night with my wing. It was a thursday and my tuesday night's lack of success made this one a night to remember. My game was on and the first girl I opened up was with a "hey thats an awesome dress....". Sounds weak but for some reason these openings work for me. I did this a few other times with other articles of clothing. Anyways, she looks up at me with a surprised look. We chat and she moves to the side as her mother hen friend swoops in. "What's your age? my friend has a problem with age...". The friend was cuter than the first chick and I ended up leading them to a pool table.

We play pool and it turns out the cuter friend is from LA, which is convenient since I am stationed in SD. I left the girls i opened in the dust since she is living in NJ. Me and the LA girl are hitting it off. I ask how she knows the girl from NJ and she says oh "she's my ex fiancee's sister." Read and remember because this comes up later on in the story. I asked inquisitively "oh your still friend's with the ex fiancee?" She says, "honey I've known him for 12 years, just didnt' work out but still friends." I ended up getting the number and texting her the next day asking about going to lunch. She responds with a "i would love to meet with you but i feel bad for my friend since you showed initial interest in her... how about you meet her for lunch and i'll meet up with you in LA." Well i didn't do that but we met up in LA.

Everything in this story, the logistics, the set up are not in Roosh order or fashion. That's why its a bit unbelievable. She gets to LA and says she wants to take me to some taiwanese. Typical dinner date so im not going to go into much. There was small talk, questions, no kino and bloated stomachs .All the ingredients to go home with your **** in your hand. One thing i have to mention is about her ex fiancee. They still share a house. She mentioned that I would get along with him and since she doesn't snowboard I should or could probably do it with him.

The bill comes and she somehow mysteriously made her credit card appear and for some reason i snatched it out of her hand while giving the waitress my cc. It was a funny moment as her credit card dropped on the ground. She goes to the bathroom and says to me, "you didn't have to do that, very nice of you... do you have time? maybe i can treat you to an oriental massage? and its the legitmate kind Wink". I say, "deal".

We drive down in my car to the massage parlor thinking to myself, "no kino, full stomachs, no kiss and its been 2 hours going on 3... nothing will come out of this." I enjoy the massage and watch her as she pays twice as more as i did. Leaving the place, i grab her, pull her in close by the elbow/arm and say "thank you". I went in for a kiss and it was well received. She wasn't going to pull away first.

Here is the fun part of the story. We get in my car to drop her off. As we get close to her car, she says, "you're a cool guy and i like you, but im really busy with my career and very focused i don't want to lead you on, i would like to be friends."
I said, "fine, i'm cool with being friends." Worried she asks if I'll be ok driving. I said "i could probably use a 2hr nap." She mentions, "well you could probably come to my place but i'll have to let my ex fiancee know, it would be awkward, i can just say you are a friend from out of town." I told her thx but its cool. (weird) I reached for her face and we started sucking away. These kisses were amazing and I told her, "you're and amazing kisser." I asked her if she was in a rush, because I was in none and if she didn't mind we should hang out a bit more in my car. A bit high schoolish but the logistics were ****ed.

I'm parked in back of her car and we are making out like high school kids. She tells me she's not having sex with me. To which i reply, "yea me either, i have a 5 date rule." After 20 minutes of her stopping, going, grabbing and grabbing my ****, the most unbelievable thing happens. She asks me, "do you mind if i go down on you?" WTF I wonder ever in the history of the world did a straight man every say "yes i do mind, don't go down on me."

She is now giving me head. The most ticklish head I have ever received. It was awesome, pleasurable and uncomfortable due to her same tongue tickling head technique over and over. She comes up for air and starts asking me questions.
"How Long has it been?"
"do you have any stds?"

I didnt' answer the first straight out but i did say no the second. I asked her stupidly if she ever had sex in a car. She asks, "do you have anything?" I reach in my glove compartment and take down my pants like usain bolt running the 100m dash. She reacts, "whoah slow motion huh?"

She tells me she's not taking off anythign and is just going to get on top of me, pulling her panties. We are ****ing and she is moaning. Telling her how ****ing good she feels. Telling me how ****ing good i feel.

Windows start fogging up and she asks if i can open a window. I said sure but lemme just put the defroster on. As i come back she says something about not feeling good. I was sensing buyer's remorse so i tried to reassure her that everything was fine and that we were having fun, i don't judge and not to worry. We start kissing and ****ing again. Eventually she says again, "i need to stop, sorry." I let her get off and we are kissing/making out more. She asks me if i really have a 5 date rule. I laughed and told her no and not to worry about the number. we're having fun and we shouldn't worry about stupid dating rules. I told her well "i have a long drive ahead of me, text me when you get home safe." She says, thanks i had a good time.

She texts me "had fun this evening, drive safe!" She texts me the next morning, "did you get back safe?"

I responded back and told her yes asking her about how work was. She replied and thats the last.

Now im trying to figure out what to do next. The sex was mind blowing. I don't want to come off too needy as she stated she wanted an fwb type of relationship.

cliff's:
Meet girl in NYC
Girl's friend was much cuter which i pursued since she lives nearer to me in LA
Meet up in LA
Tells me about living with ex fiancee
Mentions that i would get along with ex fiancee
Typical dinner date that normally would leave you with **** in hand
She treats me to asian massage parlor
Make out hard
Says she just wants to be friends
Mentions i can take a nap at her place with ex fiancee but have to make up a story
Make out hard in car
Says she is not having sex tonight, i reply with yea me either, 5 date rule
She gives me head
She jumps on my ****(sober sex)
She jumps off my **** feeling self conscious
She asks me if i really have a 5 date rule
Make out some more
She leaves
She texts, I text, she texts asking if i made it home safe, i reply she texts back
 

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iqqi said:
She wants you to take the lead.

You are a man, it's been a few days, so contact her.
Here's the thing...

After her last text I called the next night without leaving a message. Its been almost two days and never heard anything. Unlike her since upon getting the number her texts were nothing short of an essay or two.

She mentioned on the date that she wants to be friends and is very busy with work and travel. She is going to hawaii this week on business. I was just going to text a friendly, "you leaving tomorrow? good luck..."
 

me007

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i feel for you bro, this happens to me countless times. At first i would think maybe i didnt lay the pipe down right, but that wasn't the case. Came to find out from talking to some of her friends that she was still in love with her ex and felt like a slut for having sex with me and i well start viewing her differently.

So i think these type of situations happen because:
A. She feels ashamed and like a slut after for putting out so quick
B. She still in love with somebody alse most likely in ex and used you for emotional sex
C. You didn't lay the pipe down right lol

But dont worry bro its not your fault, girls usually dont know what they want
 

Zarky

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Nice work OP. Don't worry too much about this one. Keep playing it cool but friendly. Odds are this is a one-and-done but, if you don't act like a needy dork, she might come calling again in a few weeks or a few months.

In the meantime, date other women.
 

casaanova

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Assuming you guys meet up again, you need to qualify her more; she's been qualifying you too much ("do you have any STDs?" "how long has it been?") and that's how you end up on her waitlist while she looks for new guys. No more dinner dates either, invite her to your place for wine and a movie.
 

foreverAFC

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sounds like she has feelings for the dude she is still living with, but she still enjoyed getting fcked either way
 
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