girl has plans, quick play question

[itishe]

had 1st date with girl went well, she even texted me after saying she had a blast. I said we should do it again soon. She insta replies to come hang out with her, i told her i had plans but id get a hold of her.

Few days later i see if she wants to go see a movie. She reminsds me she has to hang out with her family which she told me about on the first date.

Today i text her to see if she has plans tonight. She says she does but wants to know whats up. Ignore it and cut contact until she initiates or just say i wanted to see if she wanted to hang?

 

[Lucifero]

How about you do whatever you want to and learn from it instead of asking other guys to run your life for you.

 

[betheman]

"Today i text her to see if she has plans tonight. She says she does but wants to know whats up. Ignore it and cut contact until she initiates or just say i wanted to see if she wanted to hang?"

test, she can be available...depending on your response, the key is in the 'whats up'. she is turning the tables on you after you put her on the back burner.
Id go with ...I had xyz to do (family/work) but abc happened and thought of you, if you cant its ok, I can do zxy with an other!

 

[Diaforetikos]

Listen to Lucifero. Stop asking questions about small crap. You live your own life. Get dirty and make mistakes. Learn from experience. This topic is so small and won't even have a major effect with your relationship with her.

 

[MurdocNiccals]

Stop trying to play games and pull moves on her. Was you even busy when you told her you was? I just assumed you pretended to seem like you have a lot going on.

If she's very interested in you, you might be able to stop speaking and she'll reinitiate contact, if she's not, she might not care. Maybe try not speaking to her for a couple of days then if nothing, you have to speak to her.

I don't think this is something to stop speaking to her over. I don't think I would do that.

 

[runner83]

Too much analysing.

But to me, asking her out for the same night you contact her seems kind of desperate and she is likely to have other plans. Instead, plan for a day some time in advance.

So she asked what's up? She knows what's up, but is testing to see how you react, if you are a real man who go after what he wants, or whether you are a wussy who caves at the first sign of resistance.

Waiting for a girl to initiate is a waste of time. It is the guy's job always to initiate..she is just there to go along for the ride.

So, plan for a day some time in advance. If she is interested, she will either make herself available or suggest another time. If not...