"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Hi guys, I've been reading this forum for awhile but never really felt the need to post before. I recently broke up after a 9 month relationship and have been pretty down about it. On top of that I'm currently unemployed, which is a bit of an obstacle when it comes to dating.

Anyways, I've been talking to this one girl, we went out once for drinks last week (we split the bill). We had a decent time and agreed to do it again soon. So I call her up over the weekend asking if she's free for dinner or drinks on Tuesday. She texts me back that she would love to hang out but can't afford to go out because she's on a budget. This kinda threw me because she didnt mention any financial problems the first time. My initial thought was she's testing to see if I'll offer to pay for her (I would, but I wasn't gonna say that just to convince her). I told her we could find something to do that requires no money and I'd call her later.

What do you guys make of this? Is she fishing for free dates? low-interest? should I call her or wait?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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LOX said:
I told her we could find something to do that requires no money and I'd call her later.

What do you guys make of this? Is she fishing for free dates? low-interest? should I call her or wait?
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Why ask us?

You already are halfway through with the answer yourself.
Just tell her you want to take a walk through a park or go window shopping.

And if you are unemployed, why are you inviting people out to drinks/dinner when you, yourself are having financial issues? Do you always expect to split the bill with her? Or are you looking for her to pay?

I mean, she DID split the first bill. If she were completely a gold digger, wouldn't you have paid the first one altogether?

Shouldn't you be focusing more on getting a job as well?

Finally... again, just give her an idea of something cost-effective you two can do, something free and if she says YES, then you have your answer. If she says she'd rather not, even if it's relatively free, then you have your answer.
 
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This is one of two things:

1. She's being legit and she really doesn't have any money.
2. She's throwing a sh!t test at you to test you.

In reality it doesn't matter what the response is, because either way you shouldn't be paying. Do what Kailex said.
 
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