"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Girl: Great Friend, Long History of Getting Into LTR's With Friends

Ice882

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This girl hangs out with me all the time, loves spending time with me, but is sort of...off limits for social reasons (I'm sort of in a semi-relationship with her friend) and comes with a lot of red tape. But she's really pretty and we have these really extended, intense eye-fvck sessions, and they confuse me b/c idk what to do!

For example, last friday we were lying on our backpacks facing the soccer field just talking and I was staring into her eyes and she finished her story and I just held eye contact, and she held it to, and I swear it must have lasted a minute without either of us looking away--and it wasn't awkward, either. Just really sexu@lly charged.

She also just got out of a relationship, and makes a strong point of saying we're "friends", but her actions speak differently. I'm torn and kind of lost.

What would you guys do?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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How did that minute of eye contact end?
 

evoken

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How the hell are we going to know whether she's interested or not. All you did was tell us you held eye contact with her for a while lol.

KINO HER AND TRY KISS HER THEN YOU WILL HAVE YOUR ANSWER.
 

Yogibear

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dude, im new here but i gotta tell you, Kino is so damn effective. you'll have your answer
 

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I'm doing that **** lately with all girls

she can tell you want to kiss her when you do that

usually they'll say something like " what? what ?"

just hug her
keep looking and kiss her

if you get rejected w.e no biggie
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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eaglez1177

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Ice882 said:
This girl hangs out with me all the time, loves spending time with me, but is sort of...off limits for social reasons (I'm sort of in a semi-relationship with her friend) and comes with a lot of red tape. But she's really pretty and we have these really extended, intense eye-fvck sessions, and they confuse me b/c idk what to do!

For example, last friday we were lying on our backpacks facing the soccer field just talking and I was staring into her eyes and she finished her story and I just held eye contact, and she held it to, and I swear it must have lasted a minute without either of us looking away--and it wasn't awkward, either. Just really sexu@lly charged.

She also just got out of a relationship, and makes a strong point of saying we're "friends", but her actions speak differently. I'm torn and kind of lost.

What would you guys do?
First off, no girl is off limits for "social reasons". And what the fvck is a semi relationship supposed to be? Unless your officially going out with a girl, NOTHING should be holding you back from trying to get with as many girls as possible. Plus, if this semi relationship of yours comes with "red tape" (when ur not even officially going out), then its better to just get outta that thing cuz it seems to me that girl is needy, wants to be in charge, and requires "rules" and sh*t like that.

And mostly, WHAT A GIRL SAYS MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. A GIRLS ACTIONS MEAN EVERYTHING. This chick obviously wants you, and you should fvcking go for it. Who gives a sh*t about that semi-relationship; to me it seems that you'll get a LOT more enjoyment out of getting with this chick than that stupid semi relationshiip.

Kino this chick, let her know that you want her back, and ask her to hang out with you.
 

Ice882

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eaglez1177 said:
First off, no girl is off limits for "social reasons". And what the fvck is a semi relationship supposed to be? Unless your officially going out with a girl, NOTHING should be holding you back from trying to get with as many girls as possible. Plus, if this semi relationship of yours comes with "red tape" (when ur not even officially going out), then its better to just get outta that thing cuz it seems to me that girl is needy, wants to be in charge, and requires "rules" and sh*t like that.

And mostly, WHAT A GIRL SAYS MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. A GIRLS ACTIONS MEAN EVERYTHING. This chick obviously wants you, and you should fvcking go for it. Who gives a sh*t about that semi-relationship; to me it seems that you'll get a LOT more enjoyment out of getting with this chick than that stupid semi relationshiip.

Kino this chick, let her know that you want her back, and ask her to hang out with you.

Haha, not an issue any more dude. By semi-relationship I guess I meant we were in the process of becoming a couple, which we are now.
 

eaglez1177

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Ohhh okk sry I didnt notice the date when you posted this...well hopefully all is going well!
 
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