"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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hey all. so i've been with my girlfriend for a little over a week now (we've known each other for over a month). she really likes me and i really like her. my question is this: she has called me at least once everyday "just to chat". i dont mind that she does, and i love the attention, but im worried that she might burn out on me. the other problem is, i knew that she broke up with her last boyfriend b/c they went a week w/o talking. what should i do?!?! here is a little history about her: she has had one long term boyfriend, and about three short term ones that lasted around a month each. she also has a pretty screwed up family, and her parents dont live together.

even with all of this, i really like her, and i LOVE the attention she gives me, but i dont want to be the flavor of the month... what would you all do?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Isn't it obvious? You just continue getting the attention from her since you love it so much and don't be like her last boyfriend who was probably tired of her and got annoyed...
 
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actually, she left him. im just concerned that if i keep on this path, i might get "boring" or "old", or i might become too much of a friend...
 
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It's with that attitude that brings down men. Look at it differently. There's always something new to talk about, and learn.

If you care, don't let it get boring. Take action!

Note: Silence is golden. You don't have to talk 24/7.
 
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I guess it's personal preference, but if you really do like a girl who is going to call you everyday just to chat, then take some of that away from her. Girls tend to go crazy (good crazy) when guys aren't obsessed near as much as they are.

Try this a few times, telling her you're busy and can't talk that day. If she responds with dissapointment, that means she does really care, but if she insists into going back into that same boring routine of talking everyday about nothing, then next her (in my opinion).

Girls who are so obsessed with you that they need to talk with you everyday about their day, aren't fun for long. You want a challenge every now and then too don't you?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You're concerned that you might become less of a mystery, right? The first thing you should do is cut down on the time you spend talking to her. Don't make it look like you are disinterested or aren't making time for her.

In order to remain a mystery, try directing the conversation in her direction or about things . Take control of the conversation and keep on asking questions about her until she goes into autopilot talking about herself, at which point you can doze off...
 
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