Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl gave me her phone number.. now what?

PhX

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Allright guys so basically heres the story. I agreed to fill up this chicks mp3 player since she saw mine and knows im into music and stuff. So yea, I agreed and told her to bring it to school. This was wednesday. So then thursday came by and she said she forgot it. Then friday came and I asked her if she brought it and she said she forgot it. She then offered to drop it by my house, but I live wwwaaayyy far away from her and pretty much everyone else so we didnt wanna do that, then she gave me her phone number and told her to call her to remind her to bring it.

And that is pretty much it. I'm not completely sure what to do, or what the best thing to do right now is, so I need some advice on whats the best thing I can do in this situation. I was thinking about calling her Sunday afternoon.. Calling her, ask her what shes up too, maybe how was her weekend, etc (these questions probably wont go anywhere but I don't know what to talk to her about). Then at the end of the conversation just fill something in about bringing the mp3 player.
So anyways.. what would you guys do or say in this situation? What day/time would you call her?

thanks!
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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she gave you the number so you would call her, so call her .
 

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I'm afraid the solution to your problem is really...just...that...simple...

CALL HER SMARTASS

-Damian
 

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seriously man u need to start taking your own iniative in your life. she gave u her number call her. Make sure u ask her what shes gonna do for u. Ask for a massage or something lol.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Don't call her too soon or too often. Don't talk for too long. Don't wait too long to call her either. Have an excuse to leave that's believable and natural so you're not talking for too long. Say something like, "hey, i'm going to (something fun, cheap, and maybe different from boring movie dates). wanna come?" After she says yes (have the mind-set that you assume she will) then maybe talk a little bit then say you have to go soon. This makes you seem confident to her and increases your chances with her.

Don't show too much interest in what she's doing. Feign interest (no one cares what girls say) in small doses as treats for her when you two are officially going out. Stay an elusive prize for her. Part of being a prize is getting her to try for your attention. Do this by being attractive (and not trying to impress) and not rewarding her efforts too much. Paying too little attention will make her lose interest. If you don't talk to a girl she'll assume you're not interested and look for someone else. Finding that medium is confusing, but with practice, you'll get the feel of what you need to do and it will become as natural as riding a bike.

I'm still trying to figure out for myself when someone is "officially going out" so ask someone else for that help.
 

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Originally posted by Maeisgood
Don't call her too soon or too often. Don't talk for too long. Don't wait too long to call her either. Have an excuse to leave that's believable and natural so you're not talking for too long. Say something like, "hey, i'm going to (something fun, cheap, and maybe different from boring movie dates). wanna come?" After she says yes (have the mind-set that you assume she will) then maybe talk a little bit then say you have to go soon. This makes you seem confident to her and increases your chances with her.

Don't show too much interest in what she's doing. Feign interest (no one cares what girls say) in small doses as treats for her when you two are officially going out. Stay an elusive prize for her. Part of being a prize is getting her to try for your attention. Do this by being attractive (and not trying to impress) and not rewarding her efforts too much. Paying too little attention will make her lose interest. If you don't talk to a girl she'll assume you're not interested and look for someone else. Finding that medium is confusing, but with practice, you'll get the feel of what you need to do and it will become as natural as riding a bike.

I'm still trying to figure out for myself when someone is "officially going out" so ask someone else for that help.
thanks.. you actually helped me out :)
 

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Just a tip:

Don't seem so interested in filling up her mp3 player. It's not benefiting you at all doing so, so you sound kind of desperate asking her everyday if she brought it to fill it up.

Personally, I would call her Saturday night and ask her if she wants to hang out and say she can fill up her mp3 player after you guys hang out or something.
 

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i can't ask her if she wants to hang out just yet..

but anyways hows this haha:

[monotone voice] "You have a collect call from, [regular voice, high energy] Bring the ipod tommorrow! [mono voice] Do you accept the charges"
Then wait till she replies and then come out and tell her i was just joking.. then ask her whats shes up too and stuff like that.
 

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Originally posted by PhX
i can't ask her if she wants to hang out just yet..

but anyways hows this haha:

[monotone voice] "You have a collect call from, [regular voice, high energy] Bring the ipod tommorrow! [mono voice] Do you accept the charges"
Then wait till she replies and then come out and tell her i was just joking.. then ask her whats shes up too and stuff like that.
NO!

Do not do that.

And why can't you ask her to hang out yet? You're getting too hung up on this iPod. It sounds desperate IMO.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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PhX

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ahh this is so complicated.
Can someone just give me a good example w/out asking her out already. The reason being is it would be too awkward and i'd like to actually get to know her better anyways.
 

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Its not complicated calm down man. Your just calling her! Just call her and be like whats up and all that little talk then be like. "Yeah i think we should deffintly hang out sometime.... Maybe this weekend?"
 

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Dude am a 20 year old late college bloomer. The best advice i can give u is "just ****ing do it". Do it, do it. Dont think about it just do it. When you are talking with her, seem busy and disinterested a bit keeping mistery. Have a mind set of you being the prize with c&f. Treat her no better than your friend at first.. Picture her on the bed and u hitting it doggy style. Get in the mood and just freaking do it. Ask her, what is she doing? Ask her how was her day or her weekend, go on from there and just do it.
 

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i tried to tell this guy. notice how he doesnt wanna peep game.

so what if u **** up who cares just do it. your at the bottom right now. your gonna make mistakes. face it. your not gonna **** every girl.

Call her up and be yourself. make her laugh. its not that hard. dont pre plan anything. dont get in the habit of pre planning what ur gonna say to girls.
 

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Originally posted by PhX
i can't ask her if she wants to hang out just yet..

but anyways hows this haha:

[monotone voice] "You have a collect call from, [regular voice, high energy] Bring the ipod tommorrow! [mono voice] Do you accept the charges"
Then wait till she replies and then come out and tell her i was just joking.. then ask her whats shes up too and stuff like that.
LOLSSS that's the most corny-est thing i've ever hearD LOL!!! DONT DO IT... and why do u wanna fill up her IPOD so bad? it's work... act like you aint wanna do it and get her to trade suttin for it =]
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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