Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Girl from the past

Crazy_Canuck

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I used to make out with this girl often, get some clothes off but she would always shut it down. This went on for a few months, slept over all the time, would get jealous if I hooked up with others but I couldn't get ANYTHING out of her. Eventually I just said fvck it, stopped talking to her and went on a bit of a tear (not the highest quality girls).

I ended up sleeping with one of her friends and she called me disgusting and told me to never talk to her again. I apologized that she was hurt but then took her advice and cut her completely out of my life. This was in June.

Now weirdest sh!t, I ran into her at a party a few weeks ago and she came up to ME and told me how much she missed me. She instantly started texting me and IMing me and added me back to Facebook.

From Facebook I see she has a boyfriend yet has drunkenly called me a few times and one night when I wouldn't pick up she called me 12 times. She's been asking me to hangout but I've put it off. Last night she called me sober and just wanted to talk which I found weird since even when we were hooking up we never talked on the phone.

I think this girls looking for a friendship since she wouldn't even have sex with me when she was single but I don't think I want it to happen because I used to be sooo into this girl, I don't want to get my oneitis back. Why would she pursue a friendship so badly, especially with someone who betrayed her so badly? It makes no sense...

We have some of the same friends so there's no way I won't see her, how do I handle this situation?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Dante420

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Well you already have the perfect set-up to let her make plans with you, you got this well in hand.

Remain confident, sexual, and in control of the situation.
 

OFWHAP

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She's not looking for friendship. It sounds like she's looking for more than that out of you. She sees that you're getting around with girls and she's probably bored with her current boyfriend. This may be nothing more than a hook up, but I don't see any reason to turn it down. But like Dante420 says, just play it cool. Don't seem too eager to jump into anything with her. I've pissed off girls in the past who said they never want to see me again, only to more or less stalk me and jump into bed with me.
 

Cherokee

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You have her in the bag, she may just be living off old memories and her current boyfriend is a drag; so she wants excitment etc= F*ck, or she wants something more and once she's established you as a solid branch she'll swing from her ex's **** and grab yours.

The choice is yours; personally I'd go for the f*ck.

Good luck.
 

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I don't think hanging out is a great idea, I feel like I'm just going to get blue balled again. I mean hell she wouldn't sleep with me single, why would she now?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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