"The Kiss of Death Mistake"

You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?

Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.

One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.

Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.

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Girl from out of town, stuck...

SuperValk

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OK guys, I'm new to getting advice. I'm usually the one giving the advice.

Had a girl I have slept with before come into town for a week to visit her old college friends and primarily to sleep with me.

We had been sexting each other hard for the past month, in anticipation for her visit.

On day one, I picked her up from the airport and went back to a friends place. No one was home and we started fooling around on the couch. She wanted to have sex. My friend was on his way home, so I opted out (Big Mistake). I realize that I ended up looking like a ***** at that point. Sucks. Later that night we went out on the town and came back. Instead of asserting my dominance, I asked her if she didn't care that I slept with her(Mistake again). She actually responded with "Duh, you were supposed to say I am sleeping with you." Well at that point we kiss a little bit and make out, but she won't have sex. The same thing went on the next 2 days except we are at my house and she's sleeping in my bed. She won't do anything with me except kiss. She is holding back. Just didn't seem like she was having fun with me.

Yesterday, I took charge and told her what she was doing. Took her to dinner, probably shouldn't have but I needed a way to get her to having fun with me. So dinner, flirting, laughing, touching, etc was all there. We were having a blast. We went out to a bar later that night and I just did my own thing (Big mistake). When we went home, she comes up to me and says she isn't sleeping in the bed with me. And I go wtf? Whats going on? She said that I had ignored her and was giving all my attention to other girls. She was jealous. I accidentally went from Hot to Cold. I mean I had been rejected 3 times by this girl, to me, of course I'd start considering other options... Still we ended up crashing together.

A mutual friend told me that she is totally into me, but said she is PMS'ing. And doesn't know why we aren't screwing like rabbits. The flirting is there, laughter, and fun... but she keeps rejecting the sex.

The girl is going to be staying with me for 4 more days. Can I flip the script and get us back to doing what she came here for?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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she is probably "offended" that you opted out when your friend was on his way home. She could have been thinking that you would almost tear her clothes off the second you saw her and nearly raped her but since u did not, her female mind could have assumed that you had less interest, which in turn could have created the feeling of being offended and which in turn could have decreased attraction.
if I'm right, then she can be stubborn enough NOT to have sex with you during the last 4 days, which would result in "the end of u two".
Since she rejected you three times, "I with my huge ego" would go completely cold and treat her as a friend (but not too cold ofc), if she wants to make it good, then she will have to seduce you, if not then not.
my two cents.
 

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Look, it's simple. Tell her if she doesn't like you and isn't interested, she can leave. Believe me, if there's any chance of you guys still have sex, this will work.
 

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Chickfight said:
Look, it's simple. Tell her if she doesn't like you and isn't interested, she can leave. Believe me, if there's any chance of you guys still have sex, this will work.
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what? No. Less talking, more action.

Plow. Escalate. Make a ho say no. Don't stop till ya get enuff. Just go for it, stop listening to what she says. If her body responds to your advances, keep advancing, agree with what ever she says and keep going for it until you hear Stop or a Firm No.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Ok it's been a few days and I had tried a few things, but hadn't gotten anywhere. That was until last night. It had almost been a week and I said F it... I'm done. When we went to crash she decided to do some talking and what not... and I just told her to go sleep on the couch. She left and then came back from a blanket and I gave her one and shut the door in her face. I was done. She came back and said she didn't want to sleep out there... she wanted to crash with me... after a serious pause, I reluctantly let her climb back in bed if she took her clothes off. She did and climbed on top of me.

Naked on top of me in bed and we make out and start messing around for a bit.

Success you say? Unfortunately, since I had been pretty pissed about this situation, we had decided to go out bar/club hopping at 7 pm. And everything closes at 3 am. It's just how we do it around here on a thurs night (Free Beer). So that combined with the 4 tequilla shots that people bought me... well, needless to say, things kinda weren't functioning correctly (we've all been there with alcohol guys...).

I went into work at 8 am and on my lunch break climbed back in bed with her. Ice cold once again. Sigh.

What to do now?
 
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